Good Bye to Nursing for me... - page 11
Well, the start of a new year and I'm kissing nursing good bye after only 5 short months. I graduated in may and started at a hospital in august. My very first preceptor was a nightmare, on my... Read More
Jan 10, '07I am sorry to hear of your experiences. Much can be said for the practice of nursing these days-- both positive and negative. I agree may you need to take a step back and re-evaluate. However, I have to tell you that it takes a long time to develop a "tough hide" that will allow things to "roll off". I have been a nurse for 28 years and still have my times when I want to run and scream. I also have many, many times that I have felt so worthwhile and valuable to my patients. I have been a staff nurse, Supervisor and Director. I worked as the Director of Surgical Services/PACU/ Sterile Processing for many years. I now work as the Director of Risk and Quality Improvement. I like my day job, no holidays, no weekends-- however, I do miss hands-on patient care very much. Another point is this-- I can make a very good living and it is now necessary. My husband is now disabled at the age of 51. Thankfully I can support our family and pay our bills on my income. Think about all of these things carefully. There are many options for. And trust me-- not all nurses are so mean to each other. I have worked with many lovely people in 28 years. Good luck -----
Jan 10, '07I am sorry to hear that. I guess the saying that nurses eat their young is still true for you. Don't lett al the time and money you spent on your education go to waste. You wil find something that suits you when the time is right. The beauty of nursing is there are so many areas you can go to. Maybe Med-Surg is not the area for you but other areas such as surgery, dialysis etc may be better. Hold your head up, when you least expect it something will turn up. If and when you do ever decide to come back, remember from your experiences and make things better for the next "new grad" that you may have the opportunity to precept.
Jan 10, '07To restate what should now be obvious...Yes, please keep your license current. Enjoy your baby and realize that there are many areas of nursing. You are blessed in having someone there who can support you while you sort things out. Find the area of nursing that will actually bring you peace, joy and fulfillment. It is out there. I haven't gotten to it yet, but for me I believe it lies in a doctor's office or a clinic. I will continue to move about until I get it. :-)
Jan 10, '07There are days where I would rather get deployed to Iraq than be a LVN charge nurse at any of the nursing homes/med surg floors I've worked at. But, I'm going to become an RN anyway (I'm not wasting my money on a 4 year degree when an A.S. degree will get you the same pay) and see if I find my "niche" somewhere in our field.
My contract with U.S. Army is expires soon, I might just go Air Force Reserves since they supposibly get treated better than CSH nurses(68WM6/66B) do.
Jan 10, '07I truly believe that ANY job IS difficult and requires people and social skills of patience and tact, no matter what field you choose.
I say this with experience being a bit of a renaissance woman myself. I started with a career and degree in translation, then received a degree in fine arts, became a designer ---- had what I felt was a horrible horrible job (my outlook at the time wasn't so healthy), and downgraded to an Administrative Assistant. As an Administrative Assistant, I was busier than I had ever been, crazy busy and I learned to cope with crazy and mean people and improve my own outlook. I was happy. I just wanted more responsibility.
Well, I went through another career change (which is why I'm on this board) and I plan to keep this one successful.
It's easy to jump on the "this is too hard for me" wagon. The best thing you can do instead, is to find avenues to make the job better for you and for those you work with. Or, if you are passive and don't want to speak up and talk to manager's managers about the problems you and staff face, then get another job --- find it carefully and take your time, as it sounds like you have the financial stability to be picky.
Later you can chalk up these tough and bad experiences as "character building."
Also, you don't have to work in a hospital, nurses can specialize, and they can also find a setting that works for them. One of the wonderful things about becoming a nurse is the job security and ability to find that unique job that suits you best.
I hope that whatever field or new type of work you choose that it does go well. :spin:
Good luck!Last edit by realkreativ on Jan 10, '07
Jan 10, '07I had the preceptor from hell too. She told me that I was an accident waiting to happen because I had one too many pills in my hand after I closed the Pyxxis. I knew immediately, and put it back, but oh, dear Lord, you'd think I'd killed someone! Then we had a patient who came up from ED with maggots all over her lower legs. I said nothing in the room, for she had taken report early, and didn't wait for me to start rounds. (I was there on-time.) When we got in the hallway, I asked if she was having "maggot therapy" although I couldn't imagine that on a Med-Surg floor. The preceptor told me I was crazy, there were no maggots, that was just her skin. I wanted to looooose it! The stench was terriible, and there were tons of maggots, but since the ED hadn't reported it to her, they didn't exist. (I won't go into her mislabeling the culture vial with another pt.'s name from another room!) I left her and that floor within 2 weeks. I told the clinical director everything that happened, every degrading comment that she made to me, and the director told me she was sorry I felt that way, and moved me to another floor. My next preceptor rocked. I graduate in May, and I am not staying at that hospital. If my fellow nurses are going to chew me up and spit me out, I'm thinking I need to find where the nurses know how to take it as well as dish it out. I think the difference is my age- I'm 43, and didn't just spend 4 years in college to let them run me off. After my Med-Surg time, I want to find my niche'...but I want to know where the fun, nice nurses work as a team. I never, in all my life, imagined that such a wonderful, compassionate group of people, could harbor such a terrible population of incompetent, mean, hateful people. I meet nurses who hate that desciption of "Nurses Eat Their Young" but wow, I find it to be true more often than it should be. That, is my first post. I felt so strongly reading Healer27's post, and it brought all of this bubbling to the surface.
Thanks for letting me get that out. I want to add that I still have faith that I'll find the nicest people in nursing....
Jan 10, '07Quote from lupinCheck out Nurses - MedscapeAt the very least, get a subscription to a nursing magazine. They sometimes have mail-in credits for education and information for classes in your area.
My psych instructor gave us this information on keeping up with CEUs. It's online and free. Check if your state accepts them--many do.Last edit by 1studentnurse on Jan 10, '07
Jan 10, '07It is tough out there I must admit and I don't doubt that those things aren't happening, but there are so many opportunities I can't believe that you would waist all the work you did to get your degree and license. If people are treating you bad then you need to let everyone know about it and if the hospital doesn't support you then move on, but don't quit until you have really tried everything. If you are a quitter, then you are not cut out to be a nurse!
Jan 10, '07I want to tell you to not give up. I too, had a bad experience in a hospital. I had a Nurse tell when in nursing school, that I would never make it as a nurse. I was one of the outstanding students in my class. I tried very hard and was very dedicated. I have found through my last 15 years of nursing, that their are alot of choices for nurses, not just the hospital routeen. You could work as a Home-health nurse, Case-manager, ect. there are so many options depending where you live. There are alot of caring Professional Nurses out there, there are also those that just do it for the money, and their attitudes, I don't know how they made it in nursing school. My instructors would of ate them alive, if they treated anyone so demeanful. Just don't give up, if you enjoy caring for your patients. Nursing needs more nurses, that really care. I still deal with those type of nurses, who want to be judgemental, you have to be non-judgemental to be a "Real Nurse". It takes self-preserverence, and having that self-confidence. I felt like it was my calling to be a nurse, that's the only reason I have'nt given up. Because it is very hard at times, and very pleasing other times. Don't let others destroy what you have worked so hard to achieve. Give it another shot, and you might have a different experience. I too, stay away from hospitals. Good luck!
Jan 10, '07Healer27,
There are some wonderful words of advice to you on this board. I really don't have anything new to add but much of the same advice. If you really want to be a nurse, then take some time off, enjoy your baby, and think about what you really want to do. Definitely, keep your license. I was really discouraged after I started working as an RN. I had given so much time, money, etc toward attaining this degree (blood, sweat & lots of tears) that I decided that I would just keep trying to find my niche in nursing. I absolutely hated the hospitals and it was because of nasty drs. and sexual harrassment. Back then women had no recourse against this and when I reported it to my don, she said: "Oh, just ignore them". But I couldn't, so I decided to find another job. Of course, I ran into more nasty drs but not so much sexual harrassment. I have been a nurse 30 years and looking back I'm glad I stuck with it. You will NEVER get away from rude and nasty people, but there are jobs in nursing where there is less of it. Over the years I have worked in LTC, dr. office, extended care facitlites, adult day care (which I loved), and clinical research (which can also be a good job- good hrs, a lot of indepence, which I like). I am a very stubborn person by nature and I feel this attribute helped get me through some very difficult situations over the years. Now, I am investigating starting my own home care business. There are so many options to choose in nursing. Good luck with your baby and good luck in whatever you choose to do in life.
Jan 10, '07Quote from djewel;2011358:spin:There are alot of caring Professional Nurses out there...
Just don't give up, if you enjoy caring for your patients.
Nursing needs more nurses, that really care.
...you have to be non-judgemental to be a "Real Nurse".
It takes self-preserverence, and having that self-confidence.
I felt like it was my calling to be a nurse, that's the only reason I have'nt given up.
Because it is very hard at times, and very pleasing other times.
Don't let others destroy what you have worked so hard to achieve.
Give it another shot, and you might have a different experience. :spin:
Words Of Wisdom. That's the stuff that makes me want to stick with it.
Thanks for your input.
Jan 10, '07Wow! Nurses really do eat their young! I too felt the same way as you do while i was on orientation. I cried all of the way home from almost every day of orientation! I stuck with it for over 2 years being miserable on one unit and moved to our sister unit. While I felt much more comfortable there clinically, the backbiting that you experienced continued! After 2 years on that floor I decided that rather than quit nursing altogether, which I seriously considered, like many of the other new graduates that worked on these 2 horrible units, I decided to go back to school for my BSN. An opportunity came my way to get off of that floor and into a MUCH better position. Now I am happy with my job for the most part and will finish my degree this summer. The beautiful thing about nursing is that there are endlesse opportunities out there. You do not have to be miserable. The hospital setting is NOT for everyone ! I can't wait to get out myself! Good luck with your new career. I hope your posting sends a message to all of those impatient nitpickers out there! TAke care and best wishes for a happy future for you and your family.