Found out I was pregnant, after I accepted new job. What to do?

[JeniRN]

So, I accepted a new job in a cardiology clinic, leaving ccu finally. I found out the weekend after I accepted the job that I was pregnant, so I have not yet told either my current, or new job yet. I start my new job next week, and at that time will be 10 weeks. I am very nervous about telling my new job, because I don't want them to think I was hiding anything from them, but am also afraid that when I do tell them that they think I won't be able to do my job to it's potential, and they will be mad at me, or mad they didn't hire someone else. Don't want them to find some reason to not let me transfer anymore, since it's an internal transfer. I do plan on returning to work there after the baby, but just feel bad that I will have to take that long of a leave only like 6 months after I started. It's also a M-F job, which I have never had before, working in the hospital and all, and I am worried about how I will coordinate dr appts with work, as I have one just a couple weeks in that I would need to leave early for. After my first 3 months, I have the option of doing 4 10's, so then I can just schedule on my day off, just don't know what to do until then. I just don't know, I don't want them to be mad, and find some reason to not let me transfer there. I am really excited about our new addition, but am feeling down right now and worried about how it's gonna work with my job....and it sucks, because I want to just be happy about it and not worry so much. So...do I tell them my first day when I start to be upfront?? Or....do I wait a little while until more established to tell them?? hmm...what to do. Any advice?!

[Katie5]

No. She doesn't have to apologize to anyone. She has done nothing wrong. There's a reason that pregnancy testing isn't part of the job hiring process.

I did not see any apology in tha excep tha she was being upfront.

[Sarah010101]

I would be straight off honest. It will give you a grasp of what your employer is like.. you more than likely do not want to work for someone who will dismiss you because your pregnant

[Kooky Korky, BSN, RN]

I did not see any apology in tha excep tha she was being upfront.

There wasn't a blatant apology. I am angry, though, at the thought that anyone thinks she shouldn't be allowed to create her family, go to MD appointments, etc. because she owes 100000% availability and devotion to her employer. The guilt, the fear I am reading in her posts is astounding and very disturbing. Then, someone opined that her coworkers might have to cover for her. Well, they might need time off, too, at some point to deal with things that occur in their own lives and she might have to cover for them.

Life happens. We try hard to not let it interfere with work, but it does sometimes.

I understand how she feels - torn between the job and her personal life. Easy to comprehend. I just don't like it, though, that's all.

"The Jungle" by Upton Sinclaitr

[Kooky Korky, BSN, RN]

I would be straight off honest. It will give you a grasp of what your employer is like.. you more than likely do not want to work for someone who will dismiss you because you're pregnant

No. This is wrong. Why should she jeopardize her job before the time that she can no longer hide her pregnancy, which is her personal business. Perhaps by then she will have endeared herself to the boss and coworkers and they'll all take it more in stride - plus, her probation might be over.