I am a registered nurse; I also hold degrees in business and social work. Five years ago I completed training at the International Coach Academy (all virtual) to become a certified coach. My thinking at first was to help people in the health care industry however my clients came from many different professions and soon I was simply referred to as Coach.
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Recently I had an experience that made me pause and eventually want to call every nurse I know to tell them that they are missing out on a chance to partner at a deep level with their patient, families, colleagues, staff, and personally. It all began in December 2009 with my friend's mom. I noticed how everything I had done for the last 30 years came together just in time to learn a life lesson I think you will appreciate.
My best friends mother is 81 years old and has a 50 year history of diabetes. You can just imagine the challenges her body faces on a daily bases. After a UTI in December, she was hospitalized and is doing fine now. During this time of illness and healing, we met wonderful nurses, doctors, social workers, and home care aides. This was a relatively good experience for such a difficult time. Of course, there were frustrating times for everyone as we tried to work together with mom and a lifetime of noncompliance.
For all of the nurses out there wanting to perfect their skills in their profession, I highly recommend that you take a look at Life Coaching. I've been to many conferences and learned so much about my specialty, lab results, technology, and so forth. I even went to seminars to learn to deal with difficult people. Life Coaching is one of the most effective communication tools available today and is designed to place decisions, responsibility, outcomes, and celebrations with the people they belong too, our patients and their families. I hope this sounds interesting to you.
A nurse that has been trained as a coach will have the ability to listen to what is being said at a very different level. You know how we like to fix things, right? When you coach, you are partnering in a unique way with the intent to walk alongside the patient and/or family and help them design the outcome they want. We do this already in different areas of care delivery. The opportunity to do so much more in a way that honors our patient is exciting and easily attainable.
My friend encouraged her mom to live with them during the first months of recovery. "Mom" was given a few lessons on how to eat as a diabetic and some basic review of her medications and use of insulin. After 50 years either she has it or she doesn't! I was asked to speak with "Mom" and see if there was anything I could do to help the family in general. As a Professional Coach and RN, I found the real opportunity came when we simply asked her, "What is important to you right now? She answered, "I'd like to feel good enough to visit my kids before I die". The questions begin. Help me understand what it means to "feel good enough". She wanted to have blood sugars that she could predict so she was not feeling scared all the time. This began a dialogue that she described her fears, especially at night. "Then in the morning, I feel like I have a hangover and cannot get out of bed". Looking over her "data" we could back off of the insulin a few units raising the blood sugar while staying within normal limits. Fear at night was a big surprise, the family really had no idea. We did talk about what she was afraid of, but more importantly, what would help her feel safe. Only on occasion did she say, "I do not know". During this process, we found opportunities to establish what was important to "mom" especially since we know that people are likely to do those things that are important to them.
According to the family, for the first time in 15 years "mom" was taking action to improve her health as well as in her relationship with her children. As those areas were addressed the family reported she was walking more, using her cane, assisting in her bath, and staying up for a good part of the day.
Before she moved to join son, I asked what she thought needed to be communicated to the son and daughter-in-law in preparing to receive her in their home. I loved her response which motivated me to encourage nurses to consider adding coaching to their practice.
She said, "Desiree, it was like all of a sudden people understood that I need to be asked what I am willing or wanting to do and respect my answer. That made all the difference. You know, nurses like to tell you what to do because they want you to get better but sometimes our goals do not match".
The most natural coaches are nurses indeed. I see people from all professions becoming a Life or Health & Wellness Coach and the trend in nursing seems to be growing slowly. This is our natural next step in meeting the patient and their families where they are, respecting their decisions, yet offering them all that we have to improve their quality of life as they define improvement and quality.
