A Father's Tears - page 3
by Elvish Guide | 27,093 Views | 67 Comments
I received his mother, AA, to a room on our floor shortly after midnight one night. She had presented to ER at 15+ weeks gestation with ruptured membranes and intermittent vaginal bleeding; the OB staff suspected chorioamnionitis... Read More
- 1Aug 19, '08 by bellaleni want to thank you for writting this story down, im a nursing student and have ambition to become a ob nurse one day, you just reminded me why I decided to go into this field, its the inspiration that we all are human and we need to be reminded of it. Thank you.
- 1Aug 20, '08 by Over-the-hill-NurseSorry for your loss! My heart goes out to you and your family for your loss.
I am so pleased that the nurse did let you have some quiet time with your baby and took picutures and all for your keepsakes. God Bless Them :heartbeat
With Best Wishes
- 1Aug 20, '08 by FoxybunyThis is a very touching article sometimes some nurses aren't understanding to people's feelings. Thank you for sharing this it really means a lot to me. We as nurses see a lot of sad things and most of the time nothing positive comes out of them some nurses become cold and hard but people still hurt and we as nurses need to be a bit more understanding. I'm not saying all nurses are this way but I have seen a lot that are.
This nurse that sent this in has my total respect I know it was hard on the nurse.
God bless all your families friends and homes
- 2Aug 20, '08 by jnc0713thank you soo much for that story. I know from my previous losses of a child that a father does need to greive but in their own special way. Fathers feel the need to be strong for the mothers but who is there to help the greiving father???? We all need to step back and remember that fathers are effected just as much as the mothers. Beautiful story!!
- 2Aug 20, '08 by ShariDCSTyears and years ago i lost a baby. the baby's father was not allowed near me to comfort me or for me to comfort him or for us to grieve together. we lost each other in the process. i have carried this pain with me for over 30 years, and have recently become reacquainted with the man i lost and we have finally had the chance to grieve our respective losses and offer comfort to each other. the depth and extent of his grief, and the fact that he carried it with him for so very long, stunned and saddened me and we took much comfort in communicating our feelings to each other.
all this time - i thought i was the only one who felt this loss so deeply. reading this gave me insight into what he might have been going through so long ago, and i could visualize him in this man's place, and i cried fresh tears for the three of us, and for this family and their loss, which i feel so keenly.
i had spent several years of my career working in labor and delivery, purposely, to help women bring their precious children into the world and hopefully create happy families. i cry a little inside each time i hear that first cry, but know that i am doing all i can to make it better for someone else.
- 2Aug 20, '08 by tammyl1013What an inspiring story. I lost a son 23 years ago and this posting made me feel like it was yesterday. Josh was born with Trisomy 18 and died when he was 7 days old. Father's are so often forgotten. My husband was affected profoundly by his birth and death yet most attention was towards myself. We would have loved to have had you as our nurse.