Nursing and marriage

  1. Anyone have trouble with their marriage first year of nursing? My husband just doesn't get why I am tired all the time. After 3 12s nights in a row. I am really concerned that this is it. He has not gotten over the fact that I lost my job as a teacher (not my fault-just over-educated for the budget in this state). My hours were perfect, off when the kids were, etc.

    I am at wit's end. I have literally 3 weeks left of a 6 month internship and the kids go back to school in about 6 weeks. As usual. it is about money. I just don't know what to do. I can probably get a second job or pick up an extra shift. But that will take some time. Counseling is not an option. I can't even move out until I can find some money.

    Two kids, two dogs and two cats.

    Any advice?
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  3. by   HouTx
    <gently> It would appear that your job is being used as the focal point for underlying issues - everything is all your fault. It seems that you have recognized the need for marriage counseling, but are writing it off due to the expense. Have you looked at your company's EAP benefits? Many times, counseling is included. There may be other low/no cost options via your church or other volunteer agencies. You need to clarify your own priorities and goals in order to decide where to invest your efforts.
  4. by   mmc51264
    The counseling is not an option because he won't go. We have been twice before; once (really family counseling) with a psychologist because we were going through a really rough time (death of of a parent each, child dx w/ a disability), the next was pastoral to try and parent better.

    We have been married 12 years and I have been in school 5 of those. I got a teaching degree and education has collapsed so I got my nursing degree. I love it and I know in time the rough edges in scheduling will work out, but in the mean time, he has had enough.

    A agree I need to evaluate where to put my efforts, but am afraid that I won't like what I decide. The end of my marriage. I hate to do that to my kids, but it isn't doing them any good to be in a toxic environment.