PLEASE don't do it! - page 2

Hi fellow correctional nurse's. I'm having a hard time convincing a coworker of mine to stop making contact with an inmate. I've tried to explain to her that they can be manipulative and that she can... Read More

  1. by   jamangel
    No one here has ever lost their license but were just blacklisted. Maybe that's why they take the chance. My firneds whole attitude is that she can get another job because she doesn't look at corrections as a "career". And it does happen to others who have inmate contact as sanctuary said. I've worked in prisons where guards ask inmates to do sexual things in front of them. But that's another story for another site. Mercy I do see your point and it is a different way of looking at it.

    I'm saddended by it because she is dead set on this and believes every word even when my husband and I have told her that some of the things she's being asked to put up with she shouldn't take from a man on the outside. She called me upset today that he called her last minute and asked her not to come to visitation because his children's mothe ris coming and he doesn't want the drama. Good Grief!
  2. by   melanie1126
    Some nurses might find themselves in situations where they've given into inmate manipulation for something small and then basically been blackmailed into continuing the behavior. I once heard of a nurse who was bringing cigarettes in for money. Once she'd crossed that line the inmates started demanding narcotics etc., and threatening to rat her out for her past behavior. It's a lose/lose situation.
  3. by   jamangel
    I don't even know how they can get away with it. Security at my facility is too tight. You'd have to have security in your pocket to do that. When stuff like that happens it's usually security.

    My friend called me today and said he asked her to sneak in a cell phone when she comes Saturday. I think I'm taking a telephone break from her. She's out of control.
  4. by   Paul554
    Hello:

    I am sorry that you are in this position. There is only one thing for you to do. Run, don't walk to your SIS office and make a full report. You may be able to save your job. Your co-worker is finished. Indeed she may be headed to jail. The problem is that she will be found out. When she is, she will be pulled into an office and one of the first things that will happen is that she will be threatened and forced to give all the details, including your involvement. When that happens you will be gone. I have seen this happen. Please take this seriously. In the eyes of the investigators your hiding your knowledge of what is going on is as bad as what your co-worker is doing. Report this today. Good luck.

    Paul
  5. by   HeartJulz
    Sooooo crazy to me!!! Those nurses who actually get caught in it must really be naive! Or maybe desperate. I know for a fact no GUY or anyone for that matter is worth everything one has worked hard for. Plus your self worth.... all goes down the drain.
  6. by   dansegypsy
    Better go to the administration and tell what you know. Both of you might become inmates if you don't. Inmates are manipulative social predators!
  7. by   jamangel
    UPDATE
    I was surprised to see this thread active again. She was "walked out" by the administrator. Like I said you don't lose your license here you're just blackballed. She can't work anywhere in corrections in this area. Prior to that, the administrator found out from security members who didn't want this to happen to her and our administrator found out and tried to warn her of what would happen if chief of security found out. She didn't listen just denied it to the administrator and 2 weeks later-fired.

    Also, the inmate played her and was released and went to live with his "real" girlfriend. It was a hell of a time.

    Right now, I'm hearing whispers about another nurse in the facility.
  8. by   VegRN
    Quote from jamangel
    UPDATE
    I was surprised to see this thread active again. She was "walked out" by the administrator. Like I said you don't lose your license here you're just blackballed. She can't work anywhere in corrections in this area. Prior to that, the administrator found out from security members who didn't want this to happen to her and our administrator found out and tried to warn her of what would happen if chief of security found out. She didn't listen just denied it to the administrator and 2 weeks later-fired.

    Also, the inmate played her and was released and went to live with his "real" girlfriend. It was a hell of a time.

    Right now, I'm hearing whispers about another nurse in the facility.
    You might want to let this nurse know about what happened to the other nurse that got fired. You might also want to suggest she read the book "Games Criminals Play" on one of her days off. Then maybe she can decide whether she still thinks her behavior is ok.
  9. by   Sheri257
    Quote from jamangel
    Also, the inmate played her and was released and went to live with his "real" girlfriend. It was a hell of a time.
    When a female CO fell for an inmate and picked him up after he was paroled, he ended up stealing her car ... not only did she lose her job but she lost her car too.

    These guys are so not worth it but some women still fall for it.

    :typing
    Last edit by Sheri257 on May 11, '07
  10. by   Crux1024
    Quote from Sheri257
    When a female CO fell for an inmate and picked him up after he was paroled, he ended up stealing her car ... not only did she lose her job but she lost her car too.

    These guys are so not worth it but some women still fall for it.

    :typing

    ROFL!

  11. by   Sheri257
    Quote from Crux1024
    ROFL!

    Yeah ... it was pretty funny, actually.

    You gotta wonder about some of these women ... dumb as the day is long.

  12. by   vonxojn
    I knew this girl that was a correctional officer at a prison. She got involved with an inmate and was forced to quit her job. So whenever he gets transfered to another facility.... she'll move to the town he's in..no matter where it is.
    Some things just aren't worth it.
  13. by   uraqt2
    Holy crap!!!!!! Why is it that people don't realize that an inmate is not worth your career and life. Not only can you become a felon yourself but does anyone ever think of the lifestyle an inmate leads prior to (and sometimes while and after) being incarcerated? HELLO does HIV or Hepatitis mean anything to these people? I've never figured out why any staff would want to have a relationship with an inmate; although, I've seen many staff members become compromised. What does an inmate have to offer? They have no money, cannot come home with you, and most of all they are selfish! Also do these people who become interested in an inmate ever think about the crimes these inmates committed? Why would anyone want a murderer, rapist, child molester, thief, drug dealer, drug user, etc.....? Whoever is sending out "red flags" needs to be reported immediately. Safety and security is #1 always. Just a quick piece of info on a couple of correctional officers that were compromised at the facility I work at-------both were escorted off premises when the husband was bringing in bullets for an inmate that he'd already provided the stuff for a zip gun and the wife knew he was bringing stuff in and didn't report it. Can only imagine what would have happened if other staff hadn't reported it. Pretty scary!!!

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