13yr olds having babies.

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I caught myself saying what any parent does not my child.

I took my 13 yr old to the doctor yesturday & found out she may be about 4mnths pregnant.

I do not let her run the streets, I take her to school & back and she was in Martial arts until now and on honor roll.

She was telling me she hasn't had sex ,I believed her because we never go anywhere and I always have her with me , except when she's in school.

The doctor looks at me and says he'll be back, he brings in a fetal heart monitor, goes over to my daughter sqeezes the jell on her abdomen and a minute later I hear the heartbeat, my heart sunk , I had trusted her & she lied. The doctor looked at her and calmly said you lied to me --- she said huh, he said your pregnant. I asked him to do more testing I was still in denial .

I talked to her in the bathroom & found it was a boy who had been in her class and it happened at school.I don't know how to feel or what to think. I said I would stick by her but I and my husband feel numb and depressed & I feel like I want it to be a bad dream, but I know it is reality.

I just need someone to ask and someone to give me positive advice or something.

Oh, how terrible.

When I care for young girls like this having babies it breaks my heart. They are babies having babies.

I am not getting into the abortion debate hopefully but I am very worried about abortion as a solution here. Too much potential for long-term psychological guilt and damage, especially for such a young girl. True, the birth will be traumatic ...but I personally would not advocate abortion for this girl unless it is a case of incest or rape.

I agree wholeheartedly with those of you who think there is more to this story than meets the eye. Seduction or rape is a real possiblity. Where is the school in all of this? Do they know about this and what is their response?

Hugs and prayers to OP and her DD (and prayers for the baby)

Are any of us immune from this type of thing? I keep the lines of communication open with my 14 year old; she has a strong religious faith and strong values, and I know who her friends are....but any of that could change. I can't become complacent and let my guard down for one minute.

I understand that having an abortion as a teenager can be traumatic, as I had one. But carrying a baby for nine months and having to give it away, even to a loving home can be just as traumatic. There are sometimes just no good choices to make. God Bless...

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