Nursing is my dream, has been since I was knee high to a grasshopper. I was presented the other day by my now ex, with an ultimatim, him or nursing school. Well, I don't think I need to tell you what I chose. It was nursing school. I waited a very long time to get here. Put my family first, worked hard my whole life and when I got laid off from my job of 10 years, I decided to go to school and accomplish my dream. I'm 36 years old, not getting any younger, and I'm in my ADN program which I don't need to tell any of you is a very hard thing to do. I made it through Nursing I with a B+ average, several thousand dollars in between tuition and books, not to mention time and energy, and most importantly, its my dream I'm not willing to give up. My children are not neglected, and are in fact, very supportive. My ex could not handle the demand and dedication involved with school. I know that it took a lot away from our relationship, but, with only 1 1/2 years left, I feel its a small sacrifice that will surely pay off in the end. I stood by all his decisions, why can't he stand by mine? When I got laid off, I went to him with my decision and explained how involved it would be, how much we'd have to sacrifice and asked permission. At the time, he supported it whole heartedly. Anyways, long story short, when he asked me to make a choice not only was I hurt and deeply offended, I hated being put in that position. But, I had to choose school. I have put everything and everyone in front of my self for my entire life. I've worked hard and now that I am doing something for me (and for everyone else when you think about it), its wrong and unacceptable. But, I chose school. I've learned in the one semester of nursing school that you learn a lot about yourself and a lot about the people around you. I guess the thing that is bothering me the most is that I learned that he just didn't care about what was important to me. Anyways, who here thinks I am being selfish? I'm not changing my mind, but, I wanted to know if anyone else has had this type of experience as well? I know I'm not alone, there were a few people whose relationships didn't even make it half way through Nursing I. Just wanted to get some opinions or experiences from the people I know can relate the best: fellow nursing students. Thanks.............
Nothing worse than a demanding, insecure man in your life! Like another said, " An educated woman is Power", and this in itself is threatening to some men. Go for the gusto girl and dont look back...till your finished with school..remember hindsight is 20/20 and you dont want to look back and regret choosing a man (possibly temporary) over a wonderful career!
Dont intend to sound cold but it doesnt sound like he's a keeper anyway.
"We cant control the winds but we can adjust our sails."
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Nothing worse than a demanding, insecure man in your life! Like another said, " An educated woman is Power", and this in itself is threatening to some men. Go for the gusto girl and dont look back...till your finished with school..remember hindsight is 20/20 and you dont want to look back and regret choosing a man (possibly temporary) over a wonderful career!
Dont intend to sound cold but it doesnt sound like he's a keeper anyway.
"We cant control the winds but we can adjust our sails."