Very Depressed, Dont think Ill ever work again:(

SuesquatchRN, BSN, RN · Oct 30, 2009

Can you find a job doing anything at all? Cashier? ANYthing?

I'm so sorry for your situation. Are you in a support group? Therapy? In short, do you have any people around you at this time? Aside from your children.

debnky · Oct 30, 2009

I can feel your pain from reading your letter. I can promise you one thing that you will get better if you keep doing the right thing. A support group(besides family) is so important to my recovery. To know that I don't have to do this alone. I agree that any job might help to keep your mind occupied and support your family. I understand about the loss of identity, however you are more than just a nurse. We all more than our job. I relied on my career for my self esteem for so long that I lost track of taking care of me. Our mistakes do not make us who we just a piece of what has happened in our life. I believe if I can help others by sharing my experience strength and hope that the rest is gravy. Know that you are not alone. Lack of power was my dilemma I had to find a power greater than myself. The rooms of recovery helped me to find that. Feel free to pm me anytime.

CASTLEGATES · Oct 31, 2009

I'll say all the following with love...K?

1. You CAN get a job

2. Take care of your recovery; you know exactly what that means so work it, work it-(music starting)! :dancgrp:

3. Let go, Let God/Buddha/Allah/Mother Earth. I'm not kidding, either. Get a hold of yourself and throw your will out the window!

Apply for positions (come on there are happy garbagehead hired felons all over the place who are nurses...misdemeanor? Petty crime)!

I'm not kidding; if you're working your program, a light will shine no one can quite place and they'll like you. Some swear it's like magic; the harder they work their steps the more "coincidences" happen. Sure you'll be shown the door for those not attuned but it's not all about you; it's about doing the footwork necessary to do what you're supposed to do.

You'd be SHOCKED to know how many friends of bill are managers. Apply for any position you can. Even evaluating for SNF/LTAC/Acute rehab liaison and case management positions. Next time you post, I want you to respond saying:

1. You're workin it

2. You've applied and followed up with 10 applications...resume and phone call next morning. Before you walk in for the interview, always make it a practice to duck into the restroom, hit your knees and run though your gratitude list.

On the "yes" questions, focus what you've done about it, not what happened and offer them a "at my cost" anytime on earth random screen if that helps ease their mind. Get in the door and say "Can I just do a mini interview?" If you're working it, they'll admire you (most will) and be excited about life right along with ya.

I've had many nurses say "being arrested was the best thing that's happened in my life". Think about it.

Why are you alive? Why aren't you in jail? Why do you have a license? You can do this! There are tens of thousands like you out there; uniqueness is not allowed!

(((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

YOU CAN DO IT!

1GratefulRN · Nov 16, 2009

Wow castlegates that was exactly what I needed to hear. I have been in diversion program since Dec 08 and also clean and sober since then. I am ready to look for work but feeling depressed and scared of interviewing. I have only ever worked in home health and med/surg and am terrified no one will give me a chance. You are so right, when I give it over to my higher power things are like a puzzle putting itself together and when I stress and worry and try to control things nothing fits. I should be grateful that I have no legal problems (as long as I complete Maximus program) and still have my license and health. Thanks for the unintentional pep talk. :up:

Tula · Nov 17, 2009

I'm in the same boat you are.. sooo freakin depressed, nobody will hire me, or even give me a chance. I have a misdemeanor from 13 years ago!!! I have been working full time looking for work in the past year. Doing some agency work here and there, not enough to pay the bills. Not every background check shows it, it's wierd. The excuses always are, "not enough experience", "over qualified", whatever... I have put so many resume's and apps out there I have lost count. People treat you like crap, look down at you, don't return phone calls or give an explanation as to why they wont hire you when just the day before I had the job practically in the bag! All of a sudden I become a dark horse overnight! It makes me feel worse every day. I feel useless!

I have been an RN for 5 years, I started out as an Ma, then a Respiratory Therapist, LPN and then RN... I have put sooo much into my education to throw it all down the tube. But, I feel like that's where It is at the moment, I dont see how it s gonna change, I don't know where else to look. My sister keeps saying "you are just going to have to do retail until you find something"... easy for her to say!!

I wish you all the best, I guess all we can do is keep trying... But, I have about had it as well! :sniff: