Thursday October 19 2023

No Stars In My Eyes · Oct 19, 2023

The 'death benefit of $250 won't even begin to cover what's due......even if I got it today, which I won't because I don't get the death certificates until tomorrow. It is possible I can transfer what I've saved from being 'paid' by Nannie and hubby for taking care of them from my savings acct to my checking and cover the car payment.

SiL called and in an hour her husband (the formerly dreaded BiL) is actually going to come over to sit with his mother and Momo while I go to the bank. They are going to give me $500 to cover the two utility bills due. I am in shock that BiL is willing to sit with Nannie while I go out!! My hubby would be rolling in his grave .... if he had a grave!

This is embarrassing and humiliating to be in this financial bind. If I could have hubby's SS check there would be no problem to pay the bills, but I can't. They said not to worry about it = that we will work it out, as they are "on my side". I still feel weird about it, but what's a feller like me going to do except throw myself on the mercy of God and the courts....or rather, the in-laws.

Gotta go get Nannie up.

nursej22, MSN, RN · Oct 19, 2023

Hi. I am now officially a Master Gardener. Whoop tee do. I almost didn't go last night, but dh wanted to go, so we did. They have a nice potluck buffet, and I had a lovely piece of "sunshine pineapple cake". 23 of our original 31 cohort completed the course and volunteer hours. That's me in the ivory turtleneck.

The weather was forecast to be dry, but nope, it's drizzle, with intermittent showers. Drip, drip, drip. I took the dogs for a walk and they don't seem to mind the drizzle. Then I went for a jog. We had an earthquake/tsunami drill about the same time. We have them every year on 10/19 at 10:19 am. In the olden days, I would have been at work and would have to climb under a desk or table. Today, I am outside, dodging raindrops, waving hello to fellow walkers and admiring doggos. I feel a cold coming on, so I think I'm going to veg out for the rest of the day. I did get one of the bathrooms cleaned first.

No Stars In My Eyes · Oct 19, 2023

All I can say is "HALLELUJAH, AMEN!" It turns out that I the payments I had put in a separate savings acct. for doing Nannie-care and Hubby-care, just happened to be enough to split and deposit half in each checking acct to be there for when my car and car insurance are pulled out tomorrow; and I called in the trash-pickup payment on the phone, to pay out of Nannie's acct. And I can mail the elec/water bill tomorrow, and everything is squared away for now. WHEW!

And I can't believe how calm, kind, clear-eyed and helpful my brother-in-law is now! That in itself is a major miracle! I don't think Nannie actually knows who he is, nor that he hasn't been in this house to see her for ten years! He knows someone who will tow the Ford away, fix it to make it driveable and then sell it (for a pittance, no doubt). I gave him a box of papers to search through, and I will begin the search of my father-in-law's dresser to see what papers are in there. Turns out the safe wasn't actually locked, and he said there isn't really anything of value or importance in there. As soon as I can get that woman to get her friend-with-a-truck to come over and pick up the box Spring, mattress, bedframe, and a dresser with a mirror....THEN I can start searching through Nannie's three-wide dresser to see if there's anything in there we need for all the legal-schmeagle bureaucratic B.S. !

OH WHAT A RELIEF IT IS!

He has to fill out an Emergency Guardianship application. Well, actually they are going to have their lawyer do it next week to avoid accidentally goofing the application up, The whole deal is that hubby's dgt now has guardianship over Nannie's property, house, financial decisions, etc! I mean YIKES! She's the only one who can talk to the Edward Jones Co where Nannie's investments are; although I don't think she knows it yet! We need to get her off the paperwork, ASAP, ie without any power. And I want to get her off MY will as the one who gets all of my stuff, etc. so she can't pull anything about that. But I still intend to leave all my writing and artwork to the psychologist I saw when I lived in Asheville.

So the day turned out to end well, after all. God is good!

Last night Nannie said she didn't want to watch Investigation ID's shows last night. I went through the channels and found, of all things, Jimmy Swaggert's program with lots of gospel singing, which she liked. THEN Jimmy and his cohorts started talking Biblical stuff and ended up with a huge discussion about Israel and Hamas. I couldn't believe they were discussing politics, but by golly they did, for at least 40 minutes. They actually had started out discussing if babies from an "unsanctified home" would be taken up in the Rapture when it occurs. (They said, if you're curious, that if the baby was not yet of age (and never mentioned what age that might be) then it would be taken up in the rapture as an innocent; but if the parents hadn't 'come to Christ' they would be left behind. // I used to have to watch Jimmy Swaggert;'s show every Sunday with the Jewish lady I did private duty for every weekend, so it was a real trip to see him with 40 years added on, white haired, but still able to play the piano and sing in a decent voice.. My patient used to like to watch him, because during some point in his sermon he would always cry and do what she called "dancing around" while crying. In fact when the show would come on the TV she'd always say, "I hope he cries today." Kinda weird, huh? She also watched a Scottish preacher, and a third one whose name I can't recall. THEN she would watch WWW....yessiree-bob, she really, really liked to watch those greased up, naked chested goof-balls go after each other! Afternoons were either golf, bowling, or football. But I will never forget when I offered to get her an autographed photo of one of the guys she liked best of all, she begged me not to, said she'd be so embarrassed. I told her the guy wouldn't know who she was, and she didn't have to show the photo to anyone in her family. But alas, I could not get her that photo! I think it would have been a riot!

News says we are going to have rain and thunderstorms tomorrow I don't care; I have enough inside to keep me occupied, if I so choose.

So, YAY! I feel so much better than I did last night and this morning. ?

nursej22, MSN, RN · Oct 19, 2023

I am starting to wonder if Mr. Stars had pushed away many of his relatives, which is sad. It sounds like good news that one of Nannie's children is stepping up.

No Stars In My Eyes · Oct 19, 2023

Well, hubby's brother did actually have a BIG problem with anger, and with hubby being soused ALL the time, neither of them could coordinate a time when they weren't each pizzed about the other. I generally stayed out of it. But yeah, they each were doing a LOT of 'pushing away'. BiL also regrets 'how hard I was on my own kids', and wishes he could've seen hubby without upsetting him, while he was so ill. I know BiL has to carry that with him, not being able to 'make up' with his brother. I told him that hubby shared just as much blame for not being able to make up. It's all water under the bridge now.

And now, for us to get the dgt removed from the guardianship she doesn't know about yet, that is our mission!