There is a season for everything?

[PatienceS]

Hello everyone,

I hope everyone is having a good week.

I thought I would share s few points. Do you believe there is a season for everything? I am in the process of searching for my niche in nursing after almost ten years I have not yet found the right spot. I'm being a lot more selective this time around, which makes for a scary and frustrating job hunt.

My social life prior to nursing was amazing, I had so much fun, a ton of friends, went out every weekend. Then I got married and life became about working and paying bills; social life took a nose dive. I have discontinued a lot friendships as a result of conflicting priorities. I moved to a new area, which still feels new despite the many years that have passed.

Overall I miss my past life and the great memories, I had a great friend; we went everywhere together, talked everyday, sometimes three times a day, now my weekends are spent watching tv and listening to the radio. My friend has moved on.

If I had the guts I would pack my bags get on a plane going anywhere and never look back.

I'm guessing I'm wondering what season is this? of is this just a pity party.

Thanks for listening.

[llg, PhD, RN]

I think you are grieving ... the loss of your care-free youth ... the loss of your friend ... etc. That's normal -- as long as you don't let it overwhelm you and take over your life for an extended period of time.

Spend a little time feeling sorry for life and don't feel guilty about that. Then pick yourself up and start planning a future for yourself. Identify your values, what you think is important, what type of life you want. Set yourself some goals and make a plan to achieve them. Put one foot in front of the other and move forward, like we other grown-ups have to do.

I hope you start feeling better soon -- really.