This thread isn't related to nursing. Its just me venting and trying to get some ideas about what to do in this crazy situation...
I have two younger cousins, aged 10 and 15. Both boys. They lost there mother two years ago to diabetes and they're currently living with there "father" (or sperm donor, as I like to call him). These kids were so close to their mom, I'd never seen anything like it. I envied that relationship, so I know how hard this transition has been for them. I honestly believe that their father is, to a certain degree, mentally challenged. This guy doesn't have the common sense to tell his kids when to take a bath (the younger one in particular - sometimes the kid really smells), to check their homework, to clean their room, etc. He's insanely incompetent. He wastes away their suviror benefits' checks on himself. He doesn't buy them clothes, there's rarely food in the house and the place is always a wreck.
On top of that, he's verbally abusive to them. The oldest cousin, B, is a really sensitive kid and he makes him cry all the time. B once asked his dad to buy him something, and when he refused B said "if my mom was here, she would buy it for me." His dad had to audacity to look him in the eye and say "then go ask your mom"!!! :angryfire Are you really serious? I wanted to KILL him. This guy is a major a-hole!!! I don't know what to do. Please help.
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This thread is pretty old, but I thought I'd repost it, just to update you guys / ask for more opinions. Thanks to all of your advice, I decided that calling the Department of Human Service was definitely my best bet, however that was about a month ago, and nothing has been done. When I called the lady on the other end pretty much blew me off and said that because he wasn't a "good father" was not reason enough to have the children removed from his custody. She pretty much let me know that because he's not physically abusive to them, there wasn't much she'd do. After begging and pleading my case, she did give in and said that she would "send" someone to check it out.
Well, that heifer didn't "send" anyone, but rather sent a letter in the mail for him to meet with someone at DHS. What the eff?? Isn't that the total opposite of what I needed?? I needed someone to walk in on an average day and see what these poor children are living like. But what she actually did was give him a heads up, so that he had time to get this sh!t together. How was this helpful? Here we are a month later and things are exactly that same. What am I to do? Am I in over my head? Should I just leave things be?
P.S. - I don't live on my own, but still home with my mother. If the children were removed, they'd definitely be able to stay with us, being that we actually have two extra bedrooms. But no one in the position of authority seems to care.
i think what you need is a guardian ad litum, at least that is what it is called in mass. it is too bad this wasnt done before their mom's passing, given that she and you knew what kind of father you would be dealing with....i would check with a family law attorney....social security might be interested in the fact that the money isnt going to the intended use....and if you can derail the payments, perhaps you can accomplish your goals that way.....take care
This sounds like very good advice on letting Social Security know what's going on. And keep on being the squeaky wheel with the Family Services. It's probably a good thing I'm not around that verbally abusive jerk, because I'd probably claw him a new one.
squeakykitty
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This sounds like very good advice on letting Social Security know what's going on. And keep on being the squeaky wheel with the Family Services. It's probably a good thing I'm not around that verbally abusive jerk, because I'd probably claw him a new one.