"The last place I worked, we did things differently!" (and correctly)

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What about nurses who come from other facilities, who constantly critisize the way things are done where you work? They are always talking about where they previously worked, as if it were the gold standard.

Specializes in critical care, renal/diabetic med-surg.
i tell them to shut their pie holes, that they are running with the big dawgs now!! spend more time with your eyes and ears open and your mouth shut..don't touch anything unless we say and have your money ready for lunch cause the newbie buys.

this mentality is the whole problem! seriously, what ever happened to a little thing we all want - respect - even for "newbies"? i'm so glad i work with much more supportive people than this. i mean, this job is demanding enough (at least it should be) mentally as well as physically - why make it even more stressful? does it make you feel better about yourself to be so demeaning to a new coworker?

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Specializes in ICU/ER/TRANSPORT.

Well the wrong mentality is to show up at at new place and constantly be critical of everything they do from the way the facility charts to the protocols. Heck, I've even seen new people come in and email notes to the don and admin on things within 2-3 days of starting, forget talking to the unit boss. I'm been a newbie at hospitals before, and I kept my mouth closed and I didnt run around telling everyone wow backwards the facility was and how great of a place my last hospital was. Face it, nobody wants to hear that they are doing things wrong and you set the gold standard all the time at your previous super fancy hospital. And as far as respect, well the newbie will get some if they are not a overbearing "Ive done before and better than you" supernurse....

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Specializes in rehab and LTC, some psych.
this mentality is the whole problem! seriously, what ever happened to a little thing we all want - respect - even for "newbies"? i'm so glad i work with much more supportive people than this. i mean, this job is demanding enough (at least it should be) mentally as well as physically - why make it even more stressful? does it make you feel better about yourself to be so demeaning to a new coworker?

i'm not so sure the original post was meant to be demeaning. it seemed to be made in fun. i'm just as sensitive as the next person but we need to learn to laugh don't we. maybe my skin is tougher than yours but i wouldn't go overboard with the original post and be overly sensitive. and honestly, i've really yet to meet that "supportive" staff. once you show what you know, with humility may i add, then respect and support will follow. i've been a newbie, i've had to put my foot down when it comes to snubby remarks thrown my way but i feel confident enough to know my job and i don't feel a need to jump in and correct everything and everybody. if you like me, great, if not, great. as a fellow nurse, i will always have your back, provided you're above board and legal, and my support and backing is not based on who's nice to me. :kiss

and to bully, as for being a newbie, my policy for buying lunch is for you to keep waiting until after my first raise, luv. :roll

lighten up a little,

ashes

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Specializes in MS, Hospice, LTC.

[quote=AshestoBeauty;2131218., I've really yet to meet that "supportive" staff. Once you show what you know, with humility may I add, then respect and support will follow.

Just curious, but why should you have to show what you know for respect and support to follow? I think along with remaining humble on both sides, no matter how long you've been at a facility, respect and support should be given to your new coworkers without them having to prove themselves. New coworkers should be made to feel welcome, I'm sure in order for them to be hired, there was hole somewhere that they're now filling, which only helps.

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Specializes in rehab and LTC, some psych.
[quote=AshestoBeauty;2131218., I've really yet to meet that "supportive" staff. Once you show what you know, with humility may I add, then respect and support will follow.

Just curious, but why should you have to show what you know for respect and support to follow? I think along with remaining humble on both sides, no matter how long you've been at a facility, respect and support should be given to your new coworkers without them having to prove themselves. New coworkers should be made to feel welcome, I'm sure in order for them to be hired, there was hole somewhere that they're now filling, which only helps.

Sophie,

I 100% agree with you when you say newbies should be made to feel welcome. I also agree that you shouldn't have to put in "time" to get that support and respect. But I don't find this to be the case in most instances. If an agency nurse shows up, I give her little heads up on certain patients and procedures. At first s/he may feel alittle defensive but I don't want this nurse to feel she's not welcomed. It's my way of saying glad you're here and I'm here to help out if you need it because every facility does things a little differently than the other. This usually breaks the ice and we have a smooth shift. I walked in on a staff newbie who was having trouble with a feeding tube. She had a look of panic as if I were going to yell at her and ask her what the heck was going on. Instead I dropped my stuff (I was on my way out the door), jumped in and helped her out. However, more often I've seen more newbies and agency nurses get yelled at. I don't understand this mentality. It's almost saying "get out the way...you don't know what you're doing". I've seen nurses get yelled at by other nurses at the nurses station in front of other nurses when it absolutely wasn't necessary. this burns me up. I've yet to meet a supernurse who feels the need to yell and belittle other nurses. I have met supernurses who will take you to the side and not embarrass you and show you a better way. Once you have proven yourself, there's less yelling and more acceptance but I wholeheartedly agree that it shouldn't be this way but unfortunately, it is this way. And for the record, the ones who yell the most and act as if they know the most actually are not as competent as they try to impress others that they are. But they usually get the resepct from others because they give a very good impression and when they do make errors, and believe me, they do, others usually dismiss it as s/he was just having a bad day. Bad day my foot. You'd be surprise how many errors or meds that didn't get pass that they do. And how do I know? Sealed meds or if you ask them where a specific med is they don't know. Strange because not only do I have to pass it, you were suppose to have passed it on your shift. How come you don't know where it is, yet you've signed off on it and you're yelling at a newbie or agency nurse over something trivial? I've read other posts (not this thread) about how this profession eats its young and I have found this to be more true than false.

You make good points,

Peace.

Ashes

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