No, Mag48293, you did not offend me. And, I have read everything on this board I could find about BPD and staff splitting. I think that if the nurse in question had said something like, "Perhaps you could have handled this situation differently...." Instead she was obnoxious and rude to me. I think this is what has upset me more about this situation than anything else. It doesn't help that the director did not keep my confidence as she had said she would. Also, I wonder why the director didn't tell me perhaps I could have handled this differently.
Maureeno, the director was not on the unit at that particular time. I didn't observe the charge nurse being rude in this situation, but I (and everyone else on our unit) has observed her being rude at one time or the other. She's difficult to work with and all but one other staff member would like to not have to work with her at all..... About 1/2 the time I work, I'm in charge so I do feel comfortable enforcing unit rules. I just really thought this situation was different --- As you all have said though, I was sucked
in. No one on the unit wants to discuss conflicts with this nurse. Anyone else, I have no problem with. We do get a chance to work on those lovely treatment plans.
I didn't want to mention this nurse's previous behavior to begin with because it had no bearing on my decision to go to the director. By the way, our director is not a nurse but a _ um, well, she has a bachelor's in Psychology and is working on her Master's degree. FYI - I have asked three people on our unit how they would have handled this situation. One told me the same as all of you. The other two said I did the right thing in this particular case. I asked another very good friend of mine, and she said the same thing all of you have said. I hope this never happens again (Ha, Ha, Ha), but if it does, you all have helped me immensely (and no, I won't call the director).
Thanks a BUNCH!