Talked out of nursing by others and myself.... - page 2

I need some encouragement and maybe a kick in the pants.... Back in 1999, I was a 3.9 gpa pre-nursing/pre-med major and loving it. I dreamed of being a doctor or a nurse practitioner working in... Read More

  1. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from PurplePRN
    I'm older than you.............and I'm just finishing up my prereqs and applied to start nursing school in January. The kids will be gone living their own lives one day. And we'll need someone to nurture. Why not the sick? Yes, it will be hard. But so rewarding too. I'm sorry I don't have more time to post. I have to get back to studying A&P.

    I think you should do it! My husband isn't encouraging either. I won't get into it, but his reasons are purely selfish and in HIS best interest, not mine. Plus, having that extra income when our children are starting their adult lives will be nice. They'll have college, new homes, new much they will need help with.

    Go for it!
    Good point. After the kids are grown, I will definitely want to be busy with my career goals. I think it is a good idea for me to start on that educational process now. And with nursing, I can work as little or as much as I'd like when I get older and have grandkids to play with.
  2. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from FillRN
    In 2009 I went back to school to do my prereqs. I already had a BA and a MBA. I had worked in healthcare for 13 years in various positions; Drug rep, Pharm tech, Marketing and admissions for a nursing home, but always felt like I could do more to help my fellow man. So I understand your inate need to go back to school. I was 42 when I started my prereqs.

    Age was not an issue for me. My classmates treated me as if I was one of them. It wasn't easy going back to the classroom after a 20 year hiatus, but I found I had brains I didn't know I had. I actually did better in school then I did the first time around, and even raised my GPA from my first degrees. (I went to the same institution as my first two degrees.)

    I graduated this past May. Interviewing has been interesting. I have played to the fact that while I was a new nurse, I had an advantage of being more experienced at life! This experience could translate to a quicker fit into a team than many of my younger, less experienced classmate. I am actually the age of most of the nurse managers that have interviewing me, and also have a lot in common with them.

    Will you need a lot of family support? Yes. However, it sounds like your children are old enough to understand what it means to you to go back to school. They can become your greatest cheerleaders. Perhaps you could incorporate some of your nursing studies into your homeschooling, and all of you learn together. Just a thought.

    I think your should obviously go for it!!! There is only a "glut" of nursing in certain areas. As the babyboomers age, I feel that the demand will only become greater.
    Thanks so much for your advice. You are right, my kids will totally become my cheerleaders. We will certainly incorporate my learning into their homeschool studies, I'm sure.

    Good point about life experience and being interviewed by nurse managers our age. :-)
  3. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from Sumomo
    OP, I suggest you read this viewpoint on why people discourage others from joining their profession (it isn't particular to nursing, I found it on a biology website but the principles are still the same.) It has helped me stay positive. I have gotten discouragement from nurses--not every nurse that I have met--about being a nurse. But in every line of work from farming to architecture, there will be people who live and breathe their job and others who rag on it at every opportunity.
    It sounds like YOU are sure of your path, but you want the thumbs-up of others and that is stopping you from achieving your goals. Your husband is unsupportive, but will he still be in a few years when you have a great new job that you love along with the paycheck it brings? You have the fire to be a nurse, and I don't think you'll be satisfied until you have "RN" after your name and practicing, so you should go for it!
    On the practical side, if it's been a while since you took science classes, you may have to retake them for a nursing program. Or not. So get cracking and live your dream!
    Thanks! Great link! You are so right. I have the fire and I won't be satisfied until I see those letters after my name!

    And yep, it has been over 10 years, so I have to retake my A&P, microbiology, and chemistry. But I'm excited to do so. Loved em the first time around, looking forward to refreshing my knowledge and maybe even deepening my understanding the second time around.
  4. by   socialworknurse
    I am 41 with 4 kids and hoping to start a BSN program in January. My kids are ages 4 to 10 and I also homeschooled before going back to school. I went back to school for financial reasons and felt very guilty about not being able to continue providing my children's education. I am thankful that I was able to provide the oldest 3 with a solid foundation that has served them well in the classroom, and we continue to make an effort to supplement their education outside the classroom. My husband is very supportive of me and that has helped immensely. My biggest regret is that I didn't go back to school after my first was born when I originally wanted to. I unfortunately listened to my family's opinions which were negative towards nursing. I have since realized the negativity mainly comes from them not wanting to personally be a nurse and in their eyes it is a step down. Consider your options and how they will affect your marriage and children and try to find the balance that is best for everyone.
  5. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from Annaiya
    If you have wanted to do this for so many years, you definitely should go back and do it. Think of the example you can be to your kids regarding what you can accomplish with hard work and a strong will.

    There is no doubt that nursing is difficult. It requires us to constantly be learning, constantly juggling and coordinating a million things, constantly assessing and reassessing our patients to make sure they are doing ok. All while giving compassionate care to our patients, supporting our coworkers, dealing with administration and management, and trying to work with the MDs managing our patients. It is a lot, but managing all of that successfully does so much for us. I am a better person in all aspects of my life, since becoming a nurse. I am more patient, have better communication skills, more understanding of the people around me, a better friend and daughter.

    Nursing is an amazing profession to be a part of and I completely understand your desire to want to be a nurse. My friends and family were all against me becoming a nurse, but I knew it was right for me, so I didn't listen to them. I've been a nurse for almost 3 years now, and now they see how happy it makes me, so they are supportive and glad I did what I did. Sometimes, you just have to listen to your heart and do what you know is right for you. Good luck!
    You make an excellent point. My kids are both aware that I decided to postpone nursing school in order to become a stay at home mom. They also both know that I desire to finish it someday. I want to be able to show them the example that it is important to follow your dreams. For a long time they needed me full time and that was a priority for me, so I stayed home. but now they are more independent and I think we can all juggle things well enough for me to start following my dreams now.

    Thanks for sharing your insight on how the career has molded and shaped you. I hear a lot about nursing turning people bitter and mean, so it is nice to read something postive!

    Thanks so much for sharing your story with me.
  6. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from zoe92
    To the OP, I am 20, have no kids, and am a traditional college student (went to college straight after high school) so can not help in terms of you going back to school. But I can say you should definitely go to nursing school regardless. I am a big believer in having some sort of formal training/education & am assuming you did not get any degree after you left to be a stay at home mom. We don't know what the future holds; what if something happens and you can no longer be provided financial support? Your husband may not want you to work, but having independence is so important! Do not allow others to talk to out of something because by doing this, they are just delaying you in bettering yourself. Good luck!!
    I have taken lots of college classes over the years, but stuff that I could do part time, online, etc. I completed an associate degree in anthropology/sociology. I've taken lots of business and accounting classes. I've taken a few prereqs for programs like occupational therapy assistant and physical therapy assistant, etc. But none of that adds up to any real job skills. I agree, I am feeling the need for financial independence.
  7. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from Kathywhi66
    I have wanted to be a nurse since I was in my early 20's. Never got the chance. At age 45 I decided to go for it! I'm so happy I did. At times the workload can seem overwhelming, but your kids are old enough and will probably be a great support for you too (my son is 14 and a wonderful support for me). Don't worry about the future and whether or not you will find a job other than nights. Live in the present moment! You don't know what wonderful opportunities may be waiting for you when you graduate. I personally had every excuse in the book for over 20 years. Finally I took the plunge and I'm so happy I did! I wish you the best of luck with your decision. I'm sure you will be an amazing nurse and even nurse practitioner!
    Thank you so much for sharing your story with me! So inspirational! Excellent advice!
  8. by   37 C
    You home school a 10- and 12-year-old? Who does the instructing? If you do, there it seems impractical for you to pursue a degree full-time. And you won't be cut much slack if you have to deal with child issues (illness, etc.).

    There are many things you can do with a nursing degree, but how do you know you want to be a nurse, rather than what you picture a nurse to be? Have you thought about volunteering at a hospital, and/or pursuing CNA certification, so you have closer exposure to nursing environments?

    If it's something you'd really like to do, then by all means, go for it. Don't pay attention to the naysayers.
  9. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from wordsofmymouth
    I am a traditional student with no kids and no financial responsibilities (because of able parents and scholarships). I took interest in your post because you said you are homeschooling your kids. My mom did not finish college and did not work in order to homeschool me, and I have never been more grateful for her decision. But as an emerging adult I realize the strong drive within you to do something, to get out of your hole and make something of yourself and make a difference. (Though as a mother you are already doing all of that.) So, since I'm not in the same position, I cannot say definitively what you should do.

    But, please, don't underestimate your kids' need for you. Sure, kids go to school everyday and turn out just fine. But when you have the ability to directly influence them every day, don't take it for granted. It's going to be a huge change for your kids if you decide to go back to school. And at this point you only have 8 years left of homeschooling. Time flies.

    Whatever you choose, I think following your dream of becoming an NP is awesome and you should definitely make it happen.
    Thanks for your perspective on things. We plan to continue homeschooling even if I go back for my nursing degree. Well, at least for my son. My daughter wants to audition to attend the local arts magnet high school starting next year. She wants to be an artist and they have an excellent program. The high school is ranked in the top 5 in the nation. :-) My son wants to continue homeschooling though and I think that is certainly doable. They are both getting to the age where they are more independent and do a lot of work on their own. Also my husband is a firefighter/paramedic and only works every third day, so he is home more often than not and helps with homeschooling.
  10. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from studentrnchristine
    I'm 42 years old and in my last six months of Nursing school, for our family this has been a financial burden to lose my income, but we know that in the end it will be worth it. I believe that you should always put 100% into your dreams and goals and always remember that our children learn just as much from our actions as they do from our words (if not more). What example are you setting for your children if you choose to not follow your dreams? Where is the future of nursing going to take us? That is something that all of my classmates concern themselves with, but for me this is just a journey I need to complete because I started it and it's my dream. I know the rest will work itself out when the time comes. Because this is my passion I am one of the top students in my class, and you will be too. As for your husband, when you talk about nursing school with him, take the focus off the job part and emphasize the need to finish what you started and accomplish your dreams. Some men want to be the bread winners and the have that mind set, but I'm sure there is a way to get him to support you in following your dreams, just try a different approach. I wish you the best of luck!
    Thanks for your input. I will try and take a different approach with my husband. I think if I can get him to realize how important it is to me, I will have his support.
  11. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from griffinchet
    If you waited on your fear to diminish you'd be waiting forever. Don't listen to those who tell you you're in over your head. Go after what makes you happy, and don't be concerned with those who tell you this is too much for you. I say firmly, before I received any degree there were thousands who told me I couldn't make it and less than a handful who told me I could make it. I could tell you from personal experience, I have two degrees and I am working towards my MSN/JD!
    Go for it!!!!! Don't look back on the times you have not gone for what you want. This should give you incentive for succeeding beyond their scope of you!

    Best of Luck!
    Excellent advice! Thank you!
  12. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from netglow
    Don't worry about "if" you can do it. I am sure you can, it's not that hard, really it isn't. So put all that aside.

    Since you are older you just need to consider your family. Who is going to stay with the kids? There is absolutely no bringing them with anywhere. Don't laugh, some moms think they can bring them on the off saturday you find you need to be at the college for some nursing thing. Big NO and the college will make sure you know it. No asking for a break because a kid is sick, or there is a school function, or somebody forgot to bring a backpack to school. Also, I found nursing school somewhat unorganized, so you might as well. You need to be flexible as far as your time commitments go.

    You may drop some money and not be able to pay it back. If you take out loans, know that thousands of new grads remain unemployed with monster loans on their backs. This is also true for other levels as well. I know several NPs/MSN (I will say, they went from another bachelors, all science degrees to direct entry) who remain unemployed. Now they are hella in financial trouble. After two years go by, and you need to renew your license but are unemployed, some states will not allow your renewal if you have not been able to deal with your student loans.

    Since you are an adult and understand money issues you will do this now and know that you chose your debt. So if you are going to go do it you just gotta own your decision.
    My husband is a firefighter/paramedic and only works every third day, so he is home with the kids more often than not. They are mature enough, and used to spending time at home by themselves while I am gone at classes. (I am taking college classes right now working on a minor in anthropology.)

    I don't have any student loans right now (my education to this point was covered by benefits I earned in the military). I can get my ADN from our highly regarded community college for about $8,000. I plan on paying for as much of that as possible without taking out any student loans. My bridge to the BSN will cost about $12,000. I am more than willing to own the costs of pursuing my goals. :-)

    Thanks so much for your advice and perspectives!
  13. by   radicalsenseofhope
    Quote from Wrench Party
    It actually sounds like the perfect time for you to go back to school- the children are independent enough to
    practically take care of themselves, you can use the pre-requisites to reinforce your science and math teaching,
    and it definitely would behoove you to have the ability to be financially independent.
    Yes, I think it may just be. You are right, the kids are very independent. I think we can juggle my school and their school. It will be a challenge, but I think we can do it.