Please advise

[LTCRN4LIFE]

I work management in LTC. I am the only person in my position(ADNS). I had a nurse(I'll call her Jill) work her darnest to get me out so she could have the position. Jill buddied up to the DON inviting her and other top management to her house for parties. I have never been invited. Jill was fairly sucessfull in almost splitting the DON and myself. Jill moved around in a couple of jobs looking for one that would be easy and so she could "play". Well they don't exist and she was not sucessfull in getting me out .... and she even talked to me about it...telling me she had a letter of reference for me all typed up(I'd only known her about 4 months) telling me how great I'd be in acute care...how impressed she was by my knowledge....how I am wasting my talent there. Well, one day I finally told her. I am not going anywhere. So Jill gave her notice. A few days later I had another manager(I'll call Kay) in my office. We had a question for her so I called her and put it on speaker phone as we all often do. Jill was very abrupt, answered my question and hung up on me. Kay was taken aback and commented but has no idea of all the above "agenda". So I let it go. Well not Jill, who is leaving. Jill went to management and complained she had never been treated so unprofessionally in her life. She had other things to say about me but I wasn't told. Instead I was told. Do not talk to Jill by yourself. Make sure you have someone else present.

Management also questioned Kay about what happened when we placed the phone call. Kay told them exactlly.

There were other allegations made by Jill against me. I do not know what they were.

My questions:

Do I have the right to know what was alleged that I did?

I feel this is slander on my professionalism....is it not?

They have found these allegations to be unsubstantiated...why is no one saying that to me? Why are they just saying "stay away from her"?

I feel like they are validating her.

They have walked people out for lesser offenses. I take great offense to my professionalism to have this allowed to happen to me.

I have never once been asked about my side of the story. Why would I not be allowed to voice my side?

Please comment. This is driving me crazy!

TIA

[QuigRN]

I work management in LTC. I am the only person in my position(ADNS). I had a nurse(I'll call her Jill) work her darnest to get me out so she could have the position. Jill buddied up to the DON inviting her and other top management to her house for parties. I have never been invited. Jill was fairly sucessfull in almost splitting the DON and myself. Jill moved around in a couple of jobs looking for one that would be easy and so she could "play". Well they don't exist and she was not sucessfull in getting me out .... and she even talked to me about it...telling me she had a letter of reference for me all typed up(I'd only known her about 4 months) telling me how great I'd be in acute care...how impressed she was by my knowledge....how I am wasting my talent there. Well, one day I finally told her. I am not going anywhere. So Jill gave her notice. A few days later I had another manager(I'll call Kay) in my office. We had a question for her so I called her and put it on speaker phone as we all often do. Jill was very abrupt, answered my question and hung up on me. Kay was taken aback and commented but has no idea of all the above "agenda". So I let it go. Well not Jill, who is leaving. Jill went to management and complained she had never been treated so unprofessionally in her life. She had other things to say about me but I wasn't told. Instead I was told. Do not talk to Jill by yourself. Make sure you have someone else present.

Management also questioned Kay about what happened when we placed the phone call. Kay told them exactlly.

There were other allegations made by Jill against me. I do not know what they were.

My questions:

Do I have the right to know what was alleged that I did?

I feel this is slander on my professionalism....is it not?

They have found these allegations to be unsubstantiated...why is no one saying that to me? Why are they just saying "stay away from her"?

I feel like they are validating her.

They have walked people out for lesser offenses. I take great offense to my professionalism to have this allowed to happen to me.

I have never once been asked about my side of the story. Why would I not be allowed to voice my side?

Please comment. This is driving me crazy!

TIA

Hi TIA,

I've was a DON for many years and it seems to me that they are protecting you from her. The DON is mandated to investigate any allegations brought to her/him and if they are not telling you, and not investigating, then they do not give her allegations any credence and consider "Jill" a threat to you. I would be very glad that she's leaving and not too soon enough!

Good Luck!

[LTCRN4LIFE]

Thank you for your response. You give me some relief knowing that is probably just how it is. What they don't see is it feels like unfinished business for me. To them I can see how they could investigate, unsubstantiate and move on. I did talk with Kay again and she said she was the recipient of the same sort of unsubstantiated investigation and never heard the end result. I think putting it in writing would send too harsh a message to them. Perhaps just sitting together and me getting off my chest how I feel will be enough. Thanks again.:thankya:

[Gabie Baby]

Kind of like waiting for the evals by my students of last year. The boss promised I'd have them 6 months ago but I have yet to see hide or hair of them.

I'm not sure what to advise. I don't think I understand all that you wrote. If she's gone and you're still there, you are the last man standing. So that is good.