The Patient I Failed - page 28

She knew what she wanted. She'd watched her husband of 52 years die on a vent, and followed his wishes to remain a full code. But she knew that was not what she wanted for herself. So, she... Read More

  1. by   silasozzie
    we do this almost every frgn week in my ICU, disgusting, sickening and demoralising......
  2. by   Eldavia
    This is exactly why I left ICU many years ago.. I didn't become a nurse to torture old people for a living !! Luckily over the last decades it has improved, more discussion of code status, no coding unwitnessed arrests on the floors. I was fortunate to be a nurse and had influence over my siblings when it was my parents time to die, they both died comfortably in the nursing homes they lived in surrounded by family and care givers that loved them. Canada has the beginnings of Right to Death legislation. I pray it is better when my time comes.
  3. by   Pnklotus
    How can a notarized living will be ignored? This is heart breaking
  4. by   sarajasmine3
    Wow! A REAL story! Been there! Heartbreaking, especially not respecting the lady's wishes and also NOT allowing sedatives or pain meds!?! I think that is very selfish of her daughter! As Nurses, sometimes all we can do is make our patients as comfortable as possible.
    Very well written!
  5. by   Paulini
    That is my biggest fear, that I will end up like some of my patients: bed ridden, half concious, suffering for months before finally being allowed to die... I'm always very uncomfortable when I perform some procedures on a patient that in my opinion should be left to die in peace. It seems barbaric, unnecessary and makes me feel guilty.
  6. by   sarose611
    When I first started in nursing, events like this were common place, as DNRs did not exist. We were so relieved with the advent of DNRs, onlybto be forced into situations like this one. Horrible. I have threatened my adult children mightily with haunting if they do this to me! Hopefully that will remove any guilt they may have over letting me die!
  7. by   ali9771
    if I had a dollar for every time I heard "yes, we have advanced directives, but I am not ready to lose them"......I have only been an ICU nurse for five months. I tell every patient - makes sure your POA is someone who is strong enough to honor your wishes when you lose your voice and sometimes, that is not your spouse or child.
  8. by   tlyte777
    Beautiful! Even though I haven't had the privilege of working as a nurse yet, I can't imagine how you felt. You did not fail her, her daughter and physician did. Bless your soul.