Post mortem photos and ethical issues. - page 2

for last several years our nicu bereavement team has done post mortem photos, with or without the parents present or approval. a few weeks later when we send home the infant loss kit (molds if they... Read More

  1. by   fmrnicumom
    In 2004, my first son was born at 24 weeks, and did well for a few days but developed grade IV IVH. Testing revealed there was very little brain tissue left undamaged and he would not survive. His nurse tried to get a few pictures in his last few moments but the camera was having problems and my husband was so distressed he kept telling her to leave. We don't have even one good picture of him and I really wish we did. At the time, I couldn't think about pictures, all I could think about was that this was the first time I had been able to hold him and would be the only time. I wish we had had the option of some of the wonderful volunteer photography services.

    I can see both sides, wanting (needing) to get the release, but at the same time, knowing many parents at the time aren't able to think about anything but that very second in time and that they may regret not having the pictures later. I definitely agree that things shouldn't be sent out of the blue. The parents need to know something is coming before it gets there.
  2. by   33-weeker
    We use a digital camera and our mgr. prints them out in her office after proofing them and cropping them as needed. I usually only take the pics and do the foot molds - not usually having contact with families. I assume someone asks. In any case, the prints are the only ones and the photos can be deleted off the camera/computer if anyone were to object. The momento box and photos are presneted to the family before discharge.