Hi first timer here. Having a really bad day!!! Have been in psych substance abuse nursing for 24 years, nary a write up , maybe a few med errors but that is the extent. Last Wednesday I went into work and was immediately attacked verbally by 2 really aggressive males who know no boundaries. I walked away. The NurseManager & I (Charge) decided to discuss some things that had happened on the night shift the night before that had to stop. We tried to do this after the AM mtg. It went horrible. Some walked out, one of the guys against me made extrememely rude comments and gestures. By the way, I've also been threatened 3 times on this unit by a 6'3" 17 y o that he will "kill me here or outside". I went into the nursing station and burst into tears. (ashort hx - we have been running short staffed for over a year, every one trying to pick up what we can, we are all burning out). So I talked with a SW in the back room and my Nurse Manager and said I just can't stay today, I can't do this today. It's not safe, I"m sorry but I cant do this right now. I have to just get out of this place for the day. So she called the Nursing Supervisor, talked with her and then passed the phone to me, I told the NS the whole story and said it is just getting to me and i realy need to go home. She said can't we talk about it? I said "Why, it will all be the same, nothing will change, no one will help or recognize the hazordous jobs we do here. We are always short staffed and taking patients who do not belong on our units. Half of them belong in prison or DYS. So the NS said: OK, Well I guess so." I said thanks and hung up. I left the unit with the nurse manager there, the med nurse there and 3 counselors. Today I was FIRED for ABANDONING my unit!!!!!
I still can't get over this. What is going on!!!!! Abandonment is leaving a unit without a competant nurse in charge. I left 2 there with the NS permission. (which of course she now denies, but was so conviently not able to meet with me at that time. I was escorted off the property and could not even go to my unit to pick up my license or any personal effects that I may have left there. I am so adrift. soooo upsset. I cannot believe this has happened to me. I'm 58 years old. What am I suppossed to say to someone who might (and that's a BIG might at 58 years old) hire me why I left the other job (which they will surely check out and be told the fired me)
Please, please, I know I am knew, but I really could use some feed back and some support. If you've gotten this far, thank you so much. Teh
Hi - it's Teh again. Just wanted to update you all on what is going on here. I requested thru a registered letter to have my entire HR file sent to me. Unbelievably they did send it. I asked for it because when they fired me there was no letter, no paper for me to sign, nothing. So after reading it, I am appalled at what the statements are and how they differ with what I said was going on. The nurse manager called the Nursing supervisor to "inform her I was "walking off the unit". Then the n.s. states that she spoke with me on the phone (true) & offered to come over (not true) to talk wiwth me to discuss the reason why I had to leave and to offer her support(sort of true, but misstated). She then states"Teh said No I can't talk with you. I have to leave right now." The ns. then states she said"Iwill be right over". She states she walked over to the unit immediately and when she got there Teh had left. She then notified the acting DON that I had walked off the unit". I can't believe how misconstrued this whole thing is.
Then for the "counseling/corrective behavior - "job abandoment in middle of shift. Terminate. I was never shown this paper and there is a spot for my comments and I was never offered the chance to write any thing down. It was witnessed by the HR guy. Then on the Personnel Action Form it states that I resigned because I am "not reliable".
Other than the hurt and injustice of this, does it sound like because of the voluntary resignation they state I made (or I guess agreed to somehow), that they are not going to report me to the boards? I am just getting so depressed over this whole thing. The Nurse Mgr has been telling people who work there and who I have respected so much, and thought they respected me, that I have been calling her home multiple of times begging her to call me. I called once - the day after this happened. When the Nurs Mgr. met with my best friend who works there, she told my friend the opposite - that she didn't return my one call because what can she say to me???? She is mgmt and I am staff. I informed this friend to not trust her at all and never turn her back to this mgr. I heard this on the best of sources from one who has nothing to gain and has never lied to anyone on the unit about anything and has always stayed out of the overall gossip that goes on.
I guess another question, I have is how could I have been so wrong about the people I worked with?? I have been in psych for 23 yrs. I can't believe I did not see the manipulation, the back handedness, the CYOA first and by all means best attitude.
Thanks for all the support, most of the jobs I've been offered are out of state, I don't think this is a good time to be without the support of my family and friends. So, I'm still waiting for something to pop up. Have talked with others (networking) and put resumes on the internet with almost every agency out there. Hope you are all doing well. Teh
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Hi - it's Teh again. Just wanted to update you all on what is going on here. I requested thru a registered letter to have my entire HR file sent to me. Unbelievably they did send it. I asked for it because when they fired me there was no letter, no paper for me to sign, nothing. So after reading it, I am appalled at what the statements are and how they differ with what I said was going on. The nurse manager called the Nursing supervisor to "inform her I was "walking off the unit". Then the n.s. states that she spoke with me on the phone (true) & offered to come over (not true) to talk wiwth me to discuss the reason why I had to leave and to offer her support(sort of true, but misstated). She then states"Teh said No I can't talk with you. I have to leave right now." The ns. then states she said"Iwill be right over". She states she walked over to the unit immediately and when she got there Teh had left. She then notified the acting DON that I had walked off the unit". I can't believe how misconstrued this whole thing is.
Then for the "counseling/corrective behavior - "job abandoment in middle of shift. Terminate. I was never shown this paper and there is a spot for my comments and I was never offered the chance to write any thing down. It was witnessed by the HR guy. Then on the Personnel Action Form it states that I resigned because I am "not reliable".
Other than the hurt and injustice of this, does it sound like because of the voluntary resignation they state I made (or I guess agreed to somehow), that they are not going to report me to the boards? I am just getting so depressed over this whole thing. The Nurse Mgr has been telling people who work there and who I have respected so much, and thought they respected me, that I have been calling her home multiple of times begging her to call me. I called once - the day after this happened. When the Nurs Mgr. met with my best friend who works there, she told my friend the opposite - that she didn't return my one call because what can she say to me???? She is mgmt and I am staff. I informed this friend to not trust her at all and never turn her back to this mgr. I heard this on the best of sources from one who has nothing to gain and has never lied to anyone on the unit about anything and has always stayed out of the overall gossip that goes on.
I guess another question, I have is how could I have been so wrong about the people I worked with?? I have been in psych for 23 yrs. I can't believe I did not see the manipulation, the back handedness, the CYOA first and by all means best attitude.
Thanks for all the support, most of the jobs I've been offered are out of state, I don't think this is a good time to be without the support of my family and friends. So, I'm still waiting for something to pop up. Have talked with others (networking) and put resumes on the internet with almost every agency out there. Hope you are all doing well. Teh