need advice...

[patty89]

I was recently accepted into an LPN program 4 hours from where I live. While the school is very expensive I was thrilled to be accpeted. I live with my boyfriend of 5 years and had planned on making the move together. Recently he told me that he does not want to move. There is no way that I can move on my own, for one, rent is very expensive in that city and I wont be able to work full time while I'm in school. I dont know anyone in that city so if he doesnt come I will be completely alone. And of course I want him there, we have been together for a long time and the though of him not being with me really scares me. He tells me that I should go for it, that I shouldnt give up just becuase he cant some. I'm supposed to start the program in June but with all this stress I moved the start date to October, hoping by then he will want to come with me. Heres my question...is it selfish of me to want him to come? I would do anything for him and help him in anyway I could. If I dont go I dont know what I would do. Theres an LPN and RN program here at a local community college but the waitlist is very long and it could take me a long time to get in. Or I could just go back to school for something else. In my heart I know nursing is for me, I have always wanted to be a nurse and know that I have the opportunity I am beyond stressed.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[steffuturelpn]

i think u should stay with ur man bcuz 5 years is a long time and it sounds as though he supports u and he sounds like husband material, but dont give up on ur goals, i would go school and do my rn prereq classes and just enjoy life until u get in, i just graduated from a 1 year lpn program and its hard as hell, u need some type of support while in school, best of luck to you

[Vee18]

I believe you should do what you feel is right for you! Think this thoroughly look at the pros and cons of the situation. I was in the same situation as you at one point in my life and I postponed nursing school for a year I got pregnant and had to take another year off. I live 3 hours away from my family now and I travel 3 hours every weekend because it would have been to difficult to move my son with me while working and going to school. I am here by myself, I have picked up where I left off and been here for 6 months with one month left of school. I am sacrificing so much especially being away from my little guy and family but I know in the long run we will all benefit from me perusing my career as a nurse. What I am saying is don't stress and don't think to hard we all have to sacrifice one thing to achieve something much greater!

Good luck!

[patty89]

Thank you both for your encouraging words. I moved my start date to October, for now I am going to relax and take it one day at a time. Come Septemeber I will sit down with my boyfriend and have a heart to heart talk and see what we are both thinking/feeling. I think then I will know if I should go or stay, and hopefully If I go he will come, I know that I will need help. I just dont want to give up on my dream of becoming a nurse.