Navigating through Social Intrigues in LVN School

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Boy, I'm in my 1st month of nursing school and I can see clearly the beginnings of drama taking place. A former male CNA in class specifically said that in his experience in hospitals, drama and gossip abounds, and to wait and see by the end of the year people will stop speaking to one another in school.

I observed a group forming a study group, and this certain girl, the smartest in the class in fact, makes rude remarks under her breath every time other students ask questions, because it annoys her. She is even rude to me, but I'm not easily bothered by her at all, just a little disappointed because I used to view her as an inspiration to reach and surpass.

I have some tips that may help navigate through some difficult social situations in school, it has worked for me so far, and I would love to hear an see more tips to add to my own personal list.

Things to remember

1. One must not ever reward bad behavior, ever! It gives an open invitation for more disrespect. DON'T TURN THE OTHER CHEEK, CONFRONT IN AN HONEST , COURAGEOUS AND TRUTHFUL MANNER

2. Don't tell your personal business, a secret between 2 or more people is no longer a secret.

3. Retain utmost integrity by setting yourself apart from things that degrade your personal ethics, if they think your a snob, who cares! You can't please everybody

4. Hold your personal truths sacred , keep them between you and God, never share them, if you do then they weren't that sacred to begin with

5. Remember why you are in nursing school, we are there to become nurses. We are there to learn, we are there for a degree.

6. Lead by example! you can rationalize anything into making sense of something, but at the end of the day, your beliefs must manifest into your actions.

7. Remember when your still smarting from a betrayal, you'll be left behind in the dust while others will be soaring achieving their goals. Let go and move on

8. Put up your personal boundaries and let go of the outcome, don't expect your integrity to be rewarded

9. If something doesn't feel right, don't do it! don't be wishey washey, just do!

10. Less is more, keep it short and sweet

11. Have a full life experience, don't obsess over just one thing, have hobbies outside of school whether it's work, family, friends, pets, or charity, do other things to keep your events separate. Don't sh&$ where you sleep.

12. Know yourself, sometimes we lose ourselves and seek validation from others, that is dangerous. Find who you really are and nurture it, if you fail, you try again, we have nothing to lose to begin with.

In the world of women, drama has existed for centuries in all forms of life and work. Women are emotional beings, to the point of irrational. We must gain control over our emotions as much as possible, because in a real hospital setting, our personal emotions will be secondary to a patient's needs. Guilt, fear , and shame are psychological traps that will destroy your quality of life, never allow yourself to be entrapped out of guilt or fear. We are the sum of our childhood experiences, overcome them and change. Focus on your goal, strive for it in the midst of failure and intrigue , hold onto something bigger than yourself. We are all survivors, we are here wanting to better ourselves and others, we are not promised tommorow, so do everything you can to take control, and live YOUR LIFE.

I've been through a lot, believe me. I stopped romanticizing life, and have begun to be wiser, smarter, and more genuine to myself and the people I love. Try not to focus on other people's behavior and focus on your GPA, your GPA is the only thing that will get your degree, so go and get it!

LM