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Haven't been on here regularly for a while as have been very busy since arriving here. When I say busy, we have been spending a lot of time chasing ss#, sorting out car, shopping, opening a bank account etc, but not always feeling we have got very far. At the moment I am wondering whether we are going to live our dream. My husband and son have gone back to the UK this evening and I'm here on my own. It was planned before we came over that my husband would go back after a month because unfortunately we haven't sold the house. Our son we hoped was going to stay with me, but has not settled, has not tried to settle, but has wanted to go back home from getting on the flight over here. He tried school for one day only (he's 18 in november), we've had a really tough time with him. He's spent his days on msn chatting to his girlfriend and friends, and of course knowing that his dad was going back after a month ( we had return tickets as they were cheaper), made it an easy option for him.

I felt like going home the first couple of days, I cannot explain the feeling. However, the days got better for my husband and myself, but now today I feel just like I did 4 weeks ago. I've cried so much today, my husband and son are up in the air at the moment on their way back home, and I'm sitting here all alone. We both know it's what we want and can be happy here, but the separation is going to be very hard, and I'm questioning myself is this worth it?

I hope my son comes back when the house is sold and my husband comes back for good, but whether he will only time will tell. I know he will be 18 soon but he is still my child. I have already left one behind, she is almost 21 and may or may not come in the future after uni. Although she is coming at christmas for 2 weeks with her boyfriend.

I hope the house is soon sold, but it's one of those things you can't predict. I do have my mum and dad coming over for 3 weeks on 8th november so I have that to look forward to.

Anyway, anyone reading this thanks for listening.

Got to keep smiling and stay strong, it'll all be worth in the end I keep telling myself!

Specializes in theatre, elderly, community, ICU.

That's for that!! Actually got issued SS# today although card not due to come for up to 2 weeks. Started orientation today have that for 2 weeks, classroom based. I'm communicating with my family on a daily basis through msn, thank god for the internet!! Still feeling lonely, but have made a couple of friends today. One in a similar situation as me, the other an american nurse but very friendly. So, I'm holding out till 8th November when my parents come over for 3 weeks!!

April-

Why did you decide to leave the UK. My Mom was from Luton and moved to the states after marrying my Dad ( Military).

She lived here for 18 or 19 years before she unfortunately passed away at the age of 45. She never really "fit in" here. She missed the cooler weather and the green grass (Of course everything is green in FL, not so in CA).

She never owned a pair of jeans or tennis shoes. I know things have changed a lot in the UK, but during the 60, 70s and 80s, people in England were more polite, dressed up every day, etc.

Recently I talked to a woman from England who said that she misses just dropping in on a friend for a cup of tea. She feels like you have to make an appointment to do that here. Which is somewhat true, but I would be happy if a friend dropped by just to visit.

What area of nursing do you like to work in?

Specializes in Surgical, Breastcare, Minor ops, OPD.

I'm sorry to hear it's been so tough for you.

I know what it's like to leave the kids behind, my son won't be coming with us he is in the army & loves his job he has no plans at the moment to leave. With web cams & the internet though there's no need to feel so far away. I do hope though that he comes back with your husband. My husbands cousin took his son when he was 18 he hated it he didnt speak to his parents for months, though he did go to school, he thought that if he got a good education he could get a job & buy a ticket back home. It took about 9 months for him to settle. He got a fantastic job he earns in excess of $500,000 a year & only works 2-3 days a week (computer programmer)he is now 46 years old married with 2 children & has never been back to the UK since the day his parents took him away.

You just never know I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that your son will be back & for a quick sale on the house. :icon_hug:

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