One of the reasons why I decided to go into correctional nursing was so I could leave work at work and I would not care so much for my patients.
But, these patients are so mentally ill. I can't fix the problem. I can't give them that magic pill or hold their hand or make it better. I can't tell them that this world is a better place because they are alive. I can't stop them from cutting themselves. I can't stop the suicide attempts. I can't stop their nightmares or sit with them when they are new to the facility and are scared. I can't stop the rape, the brutal fights, the broken jaws.
I can't, I can't, I can't.
I read this section of allnurses failthfully. Nobody talks about how darn difficult and heartbreaking this line of work is. Am I the only one? Am I the only one who comes home from work and can't sleep because I can't stop thinking about the brutality that these men go through everyday? The violent rape that left a man with a prolapsed rectum? The man who bangs his head against the blocked wall because he has been in isolation for so long? The man who cut his arms so badly that his arms looked like ground beef?
I've tried to talk to my nursing friends about this. 99% of them think that they deserve this. After all, they are criminals. A danger to society. They deserve this torture because they took something/someone away. They've raped, killed, stolen. They are in a max security prison for a reason. They are dangerous. They would kill again in a heartbeat given the right circumstance. They manipulate, take advantage, and steal. You can't talk about this with your co-workers because you'll be labeled as "hug a thugger." You put on your poker face and go through the motions. You can't care.
But, I do care.
They are bad, bad men. But, they are humans whose mothers beat them and who were neglected and who are so broken that we can't fix them. They are people. They are people who made very bad choices.
The mental health portion of my job is wearing me down. I love the STEMI's. the emergencies, the education. I love treating their colds, bandaging their wounds, making their physical pain better. I like seeing the old men who are in the diabetic line smile their toothless smile. I like going home feeling I made a difference that day, even if the difference was made to a criminal who is just doing their time.
The psych portion is getting to me. I feel incompetent. I love my job. I can't imagine doing anything else.
Am I the only one?