Is it me? Or is it everybody else?

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So I moved clear across the country to start a nursing program. I didn't want to wait on a waiting list and I found a program I was excited about. Fast forward 2 semesters and I literally can't stand the majority of the people in my class. They are soooo rude. Talking excessively and constantly interrupting anyone talking. I am honestly embarrassed when we are at clinicals because they are soo rude sometimes. The same questions will be repeated several times because no one is paying attention.Our instructors literally have to talk over people half the time. It is incredibly frustrating being apart of this group. We've had people from other groups join to do a makeup or something and even they ( part of the same school just different group) can't believe how loud it gets.

not being from this area I've found it hard to make friends since I'm in school most of the time and hate the people I'm forced to interact with but I've figured it out. It's not me being anti social, it's me refusing to interact with people that are so rude. I guess this is more of a vent than anything else, but do any of you ever have to deal with the same thing. Just a little but more info, it's not the school. There are classes ahead of and behind us and it's nothing like that with them. I just decided to join with a group of people that never learned any manners.

Specializes in public health, women's health, reproductive health.

I am curious as to why the instructor allows this to continue. I haven't had this experience. My clinical instructors sent people home for less.

Specializes in ICU Stepdown.

That sounds highly frustrating. If I were you I would stick to myself and not worry about being antisocial. Hopefully the instructors take notice, and if not at least you're learning and showing a higher level of professionalism.

Specializes in Pediatric Hematology/Oncology.

Yeah, what's up with your instructors allowing this?

Unfortunately, it's the same in every program it seems. There's one group every now and again that has some kind of pathological problem that really fouls up the experience and education for the people who are there to get something accomplished. The tricky part is that, being in the clinical setting, you are now being represented by these imbeciles. The good news is, though, you get to be polite and helpful and set yourself WAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYY apart. You will be more memorable for your uncommon behavior and that's a fantastic thing when it comes to getting nurse managers to acknowledge your existence and consider you for a job.

It doesn't seem to be you, then. It seems to be them. Unfortunately it happens. Just make sure you turn it to your advantage to let your star really shine bright.

I might suggest to confront the obnoxious ones in your clinical group, but those are always the types of people that you can't get through to, aren't they :cheeky: Anyways, think of how ahead of the game you'll be when you're, say, taking the NCLEX and the other students realize they should have paid more attention.

Your clinical instructor(s) may not have said anything to you about it, but I promise that they notice your behavior! It's hard, but try to ignore the others, and you keep doing you!

I definitely want to curse some of my classmates out, but remember, we are stuck with each other and you never know who your next clinical group will be with. I do not recommend getting into any confrontations, or adding to the drama. Even if you can't stand the B in row C, there may come a time when you'll need one another, and if you let personal biases in the way, it's the patient who ends up suffering. Also, I've come to like some of the people I initially didn't like. Your opinions of people change once you get to know them outside of the hallways of Real Student Nurses of (insert your locale).

Specializes in ICU, ED.

That's probably super annoying, and definitely inappropriate and disrespectful. However, I DO NOT think confronting them would be worth it though - especially if it's a majority of your class behaving this way. It's them versus you. The teachers have obviously figured that one out if they haven't done anything about it by now. I would suck it up and stay under the radar. Let your good behavior and maturity set yourself apart from the rest of your class. You'll definitely benefit from that in the long run. And you never know who you might end up working with someday. Don't make any enemies now.

Specializes in Hospital Education Coordinator.

ignore them. You are there for YOUR education,not theirs. I had a similar problem in my ADN program. Fast forward ---- by the time I finished grad school I was in another state, another life and do not even remember their names. For fun, read up on emotional intelligence. Appears you are ahead of them in that category. Another for fun---read Viktor Frankl's book Man's Search for Meaning. Short, but illustrates how you can use this time as a lab to learn how to deal with these personalities.

That's probably super annoying, and definitely inappropriate and disrespectful. However, I DO NOT think confronting them would be worth it though - especially if it's a majority of your class behaving this way. It's them versus you. The teachers have obviously figured that one out if they haven't done anything about it by now. I would suck it up and stay under the radar. Let your good behavior and maturity set yourself apart from the rest of your class. You'll definitely benefit from that in the long run. And you never know who you might end up working with someday. Don't make any enemies now.

Took the words right out of my mouth. I have classmates like that in both class & clinical. It is sooooo irritating. Instructors having to answer the same question 4 times. Having to shush people. Ridiculous.

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