Is this messed up?

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I made this account to get some insight from other students/nurses.

There's a girl from some of my pre-req classes who is starting the nursing program in August. She would sometimes rant to me about the problems she and her s/o were having (the problems were nothing serious, just weren't getting along for the last 6 months or so). She was telling me that things have been improving and they've been talking about "the future" and how "they are going to have the cutest baby" and "when they have a baby they're gonna do this" yaddayadda but haven't actually discussed HAVING a baby.

She expressed concerned lately that they're getting up there in age (mid-30s) and she is concerned about the increased risk of having an "abnormal" baby as they age and said she has been considering going off birth control so "whatever happens, happens". She stated she has always had problems getting pregnant and that she would probably go "like a year" before actually getting pregnant (by just getting off birth control).

Obviously getting pregnant in nursing school is do-able, but not suggested. Is it messed up that she wouldn't tell her s/o?

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With all due respect.....why are you involved in this? What she does or doesn't do regarding her SO is, well....her problem. Clearly she isn't your best friend, and you aren't getting stuck with bill or baggage.

Certainly she knows that being pregnant in nursing school may or may not derail her program completion. Certainly she is aware that she and her SO have been having problems, as she's been talking about these problems for six months. People make a lot of stupid decisions and poor life choices; as a nurse you will see the effects of those poor choices day in and day out.

So. If she asks your opinion, tell her, and leave it at that. If not....I'd keep the heck out of it!

You will have plenty on your plate as a nursing student. Concentrate on you and yours, and let the rest take care of theirs.

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It is messed up but it's their business. I wouldn't waste my time worrying about it. You've got a lot more to concern yourself w/ right now. Next time she brings up her birth control matters, politely let her know the issue is between her and her boyfriend. :-)

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Specializes in NICU, ICU, PICU, Academia.

Posting other people's business on an internet forum is unbecoming a future nurse.

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Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.

That's some awfully personal/private information you've posted about another person. Gossip (and that's exactly what this is- sharing information about someone behind their back) is unprofessional and hurtful. Other people's relationships aren't really any of your concern, and it would be best if you removed yourself from further conversations.

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I bet she would be really unhappy that you are posting her business on a public forum. Right or wrong, it's her decision and there is absolutely nothing you can do to control it. I'm confused as to why you would even come here and post about it. Stay out of it and focus on your school work.

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Did she specifically say that she wasn't going to tell her boyfriend? Not that it should matter to anyone but her and her boyfriend, but many couples do go off birth control and just let whatever happens, happen. It's not really all that uncommon. It's often referred to as not preventing, not trying (or vice versa).

What I do when I find myself in a position where I feel like I'm judging someone because of their decisions (that have absolutely nothing to do with me) and have been told about it, I've been making it a habit to remind myself that as a nurse (if I ever become one), it's not my job to judge. I have to keep my personal feelings and opinions out of it. I try to practice that.

Whether that's what she's doing or not, it's truly between her and her boyfriend. If you're not comfortable with the conversation, say so or take the conversation in a different direction.

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Are you the one you're posting about..... ?

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Specializes in Prior military RN/current ICU RN..

Why do you care what people do in their free time? Last time I checked and this is the USA and if two people want to have a baby they can. What do you mean "messed up"?

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.

Why is it any of your or our business?

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Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

You'd like to know what's messed up? You, creating an account here on AN JUST to post gossip about a fellow student!! Seriously?

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Specializes in 15 years in ICU, 22 years in PACU.

Since OP is asking my opinion about a situation I know virtually nothing about and have no interest in knowing more or actually injecting myself into some anonymous, possibly not even real couple's personal life, I'd love to go spouting off my mouth and risk the very real backlash of my fellow AN tribesmen.

She's a horrible, disgusting manipulative wench. Her eggs are the old and defective part of the birth equation. His sperm will be good until his 70's, possibly longer. If they have an abnormal baby it will be all her fault, so she ought not be comin' a runnin' to you for more of your concerned support.

Give me her personal e-mail and I'll set that little liar straight. Also, it would be helpful if you give me her boyfriend's e-mail, too, so I can give him a heads up about her devious plot to trap him into a marriage from hell.

The Oracle of Honesty has spoken. SSsssswwwwhhhhoooossshhhhhh....I said the Great Oz has spoken!

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