I am pregnant and I am about to start my new job.

[elenasimona]

I just found that I am less than a month pregnant and honestly, I didn't know this during the interview process. In fact, I had tested myself for home pregnancy test twice before searching for jobs just to prevent this kind of situation.

I'm really in dilemma right now, this is my first pregnancy and we were married for 5 years. I am so happy for this great news but there's a part of me feeling guilty towards my employer. I don't want to disappoint them and I don't want them to think that I trick them.

What do you think is the best time to tell them about this? Do you think I have to wait after first trimester?

Has anyone in this situation before?

[benegesserit]

We'd been trying to conceive for 9 months, and I'd kind of decided that it wasn't going to work and it was time to move on with life. I applied for a job when I was maybe 24 hours pregnant. I joke that it was entering the facility that caused me to conceive, as there were several others in the small facility who ended up being due within a few months of me. At the time I interviewed, I knew I was pregnant, and honestly, didn't really try at the interview because I was feeling ambiguous about taking on a second job at that point. Despite that, the interview seemed to go well enough. But I didn't hear anything back and figured they'd found someone else.

4 months later, they called and asked if I wanted the job. Kind of went back and forth on it, but ended up accepting, because I did want to work for that facility. I disclosed to the PA doing the pre-employment physical because he was going to palpate my abdomen, so I figured I should say something.

I started working there. Didn't really try to hide it. I mentioned it to co-workers and so on. One of the other nurses was due two weeks before me, so we commiserated. Patients knew, because one of them started making comments about me being chunky, and I exasperatedly said I was 6 months pregnant.

7 months, and the DON asks if I'm interested in cross-training to the acute floor (got hired for LTC). I say yes, as that was a large part of the reason I'd applied at the facility in the first place. After getting off the phone it hits me - they're probably doing this because of my co-worker who is due within weeks of me. So I apologized and said that I wasn't really trying to hide it, just figured that at that point it was obvious and everyone knew. It turned out that wasn't the reason (or so she said, anyways)... but she hadn't known. And neither did the ER docs I worked with until I said something.

I worked up until 38 weeks, when I had to call in for my last scheduled shift because my water broke.

When I came back from maternity leave (at my original job, where I'd worked through the whole pregnancy), someone said "Oh, you're still around? I thought you'd found another job!" She was shocked to find out I'd had a baby.

I should mention this was my 4th baby. I hide them well, apparently.

Anyways, point of the story being that I disclosed at a new job at 7 months pregnant with no negative fallout (I still work there).

[RNDisneyGirl]

I passed my boards at 6 months pregnant and decided to go to the smallest nursing home in town because I knew they would hire me ASAP. Before applying at that facility, I had an interview at the hospital and was almost positive I would have the job but couldn't believe how judgmental people were with me being pregnant. I can't believe companies are still discriminating against pregnant women. 2 months ago I had an interview with Davita, (my son is now 9 months old) I couldn't believe all the questions they asked about child care and working long hours. I have been an RN for 1.5 years now and almost feel like long term care is going to be my only flexible option until my kids are in school.

[elenasimona]

Thank you all for your responses. I felt relieved that there are many of you who understand what I am going through right now. I have decided to disclose this pregnancy after 1st trimester, it is the safe point, so to speak, when the chance of miscarriage greatly diminishes. I am truly blessed for getting this new job and a BABY. I couldn't be happier!