I messed up

seaspray700777 · Jun 10, 2009

Hi: Sorry this happens sometimes with very lazy people with no ethic. I have been a cna for 15 years and I have seen it all. My question to you is: are you both responsible for the same residents? If not then admin will find out soon on thier own that this cna is not suitable for this line of work. If you both are responsible for the same residents than YES you need to speak out. It is your professional and ethical responsibily to do so.

I am in nursing school now and see the other side a little different as far as admin, they cannot possibly see it all without help from the cna's they depend on for first hand knowledge. You seem like a very caring, real nursing assistent with high integrity. NEVER feel bad about being an advocate for the residents! In the end you are the one that will be able to lay your head down at night and sigh a relief that you truly have made a difference.

Oh, and when I said at the beginning of this post even if these residents are not your responsibility, yes please speak out because, sometimes they cannot. All my deepest respect.

:bowingpur:redbeathe:nurse:

dedream · Jun 10, 2009

Im confused...does everyone involved know that the report that was made by the aide that replaced you? Why would they think it was you?. And for what its worth if she was indeed lazy she would have been found out eventually. Why do you feel bad? Was this aide your friend? Think about it this way maybe it was a good thing that you refused to work with her that day because now she may be replaced by someone who actually pulls their own weight.

caewelike · Jun 10, 2009

Ok,I have been on the floor for 6 months.During that time,one aide never passes trays or feeds.She just talks!
Well yesterday nursing admin was on the floor and I said I dont want to work with her anymore.I guess I should of kept my mouth shut.Cause later in day another aide called down to nursing admin and reported the lazy aide for gnot getting her pts out of bed by 1 pm.Now everyone thinks it was me,and the lazy aide is going off about me.I wish I never said anything. I dont know what to do.Everyone said she should be reported for not passing trays or feeding,but not for getting her pts up late. so now what do I do?

I have a question. Was yesterday the 1st time you spoke up about the situation? If so then refusing to work with her is a bit drastic. What should have happend is you should have pulled her to the side as soon as you noticed this pattern of bad behavior and let her know how you feel. You should have told her you needed help on the unit. Then if she still does not want to help you bring it up to the charge nurse... work the chain of command.

However, since the damage has already been done and she is talking mess about you I think that you should approach her and let her know how you feel in private ( if you don't feel talking to her in private alone is a good idea have a mediator there with you e.i. charge nurse). Just let her know that you sense that she has some hard feelings with you and you want to know what you have done wrong. This opens the door for her to let you know how she really feels ( brace yourself... you might not like what she says). If she says that she feels you are the one that reported her to nursing admin... explain to her that you didnt and that the only reason why you didn't want to work with her is because you felt she doesnt help out enough on the floor. Then apologize for not coming to her 1st about the issue and refusing to work with her(if you are a prideful person suck it up). Also, let her know that you don't like it when she talks about you on the floor to other people because it hurts your feelings or whatever and that if she has a problem she can always come talk to you about it 1st.

Listen, I don't think you are in the wrong fully, and you shouldn't feel bad... never feel bad about being and avocate for the patients... you are their voice.. sometimes we are all they have. However, what I do think is that you made a small mistake by not intially pledging to your peer and letting her know how you feel. What you did was let the your other coworkers know 1st which caused some tension.

If after you talk to her and work the chain of command she still doesnt want to pull her weight, let your superior know that you dont want to work with her because she doesnt help out on the floor even though yall have already talked to her. I hope the advice I gave is helpful. Good luck.

aide? · Jun 10, 2009

Thank you all for advice.

to clear a few things up, she has never passed trays or fed...After my first month on floor I asked her why not,she said she is busy.I never see her do anything but talk.The other aides all laugh about it or they talk crap about her.1 or 2 have said things to her.I have gone to her and said we need help passing trays ,we need help feeding,she calls me bossy,and says she does not have to listen to me.I went to my charge nurse twice and asked her to talk to this aide,to get her to help.the aide told the charge nurse she is answering call lights,but thats was a lie!I went to don on floor 3 times and told her,she said ever time "work it out,I cant deal with this".So when nurse admin came on floor I said I dont want to work with her,she said ok calm down we will talk later.That was in am,I stayed on my floor the rest of the day,I of course finished my shift,I meant I did not want to work with her after that day.But again everyone heard me say that.Then the other aide called nursing admin 3 hours later to report her.But everyone thinks it was me.At the end of my shift I went to the lazy aide and told her I did not call on her.I also told her she never helps with food,she said she thinks I should worry about myself.But if she does not help that is more the rest of us have to do!I went to the aide who called on her,asked her to step up about calling,she said no way.So now im the bad guy.I am not there to make friends,but it sure is nice to work with people who like you.So now what do I do.

dedream · Jun 10, 2009

I dont get the feeling that you are the bad guy, I think everyone obviously has the same feelings as you do but are scared to speak up about it. You may end up being the scape goat for this for a while. It seems to me like she was the one bad apple in the bunch and like a bad apple she affects the whole bunch by being lazy since you all have to pick up her slack. I dont think you should feel bad for speaking up and your concience should be clear since you were not the one who reported her. It is nice to work with people who like you but better to work with those who respect you. Unless the other aides are making this incident into more and making you uncomfortable, you should should keep your "relationship" with your coworker strictly professional if you ever have to work with her in the future. Good luck hon

aide? · Jun 10, 2009

Thanks again everyone.I was off today,so I guess I will see how it goes next shift.

thanks

Misslady113 · Jun 11, 2009

Quite frankly, who cares what she thinks?? She was irresponsible and she got reported. If anything, you should be glad that she did and hopefully she will learn from it. I always say, work is not about making friends or having people like you. So if she has a problem with you, don't worry about it. But I do think that her going around and talking about you is unproffesional and it can interfere with your workday if you allow it to. Before the situation escalates, you need to pull her to the side and be frank with her, but in a professional, objective way. Dont say "Listen I know you were talking about me and I dont like it", or something of the sorts. Rather let her know in a factual way, " I know that there have been speculations that I was the one who told on you. I want you to know that I didn't and am not involed in anyway with whoever did so. You are a great CNA, but your performance in some areas need to be improved for the betterment of the patients and us working as a team,etc..." Just be nice and honest at the same time in a professional way. She will either recieve it or not, but that's up to her and it's off your hands. But don't just sit around and let her ramble about you cause it will build up tension and create unessesary stress. Address the situation promptly and know that you did the best you could to resolve it. Good luck to you.

dedream · Jun 12, 2009

I second that Miss lady....well put:up:

Girl Scout · Jun 12, 2009

I just had to respond because I met a CNA just like this today during clinicals. It boggled my mind how she's been working at the same place for a year, because all I saw her do today was lazily walk around the floor and occasionally stop to talk about her hair or her boyfriend with people passing by. And then when we were in the showers, she regaled me with even more about her boyfriend and her hair. And then when she wasn't talking about her boyfriend or her hair, she was doing other things and not even telling me what she was doing, or leaving the room and not even saying a word to me. I know I was just on clinicals, but I asked to be reassigned. But it appears she's well-loved by most there and gets away with her laziness because everybody thinks she's cute and cool (she's 19) and "young", so apparently she gets forgiven for the attitude.

I was just thinking after clinicals, when I got home, how I would handle her if I was actually working there, and we were assigned the floor together. Because I know I do not suffer self-obsessed, lazy teenagers well, if at all, but I can't imagine having to work side by side with the same.

So I hope you're able to get this sorted out. I'm sure it's an awkward situation. But try to remain diplomatic at all times, go through the chain of command, be honest but not 'whiny', be factual about what you see happening and how it affects/affected your work, and if you feel it affects the safety and security of the residents.