How do you keep going when you feel discouraged?

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My boyfriend and I are big dreamers. He just graduated and is on his way to a career. I graduated from LPN but am still trying to apply for a bridge program. When I graduated last year, our school was still in talks with the state to develop it. It took them a year and a half. I just contacted the director and they accept LPNS into whatever space they have in their current RN program. All the other schools only accept their own LPNs and it's still very competitive. Right now, i'm working on taking over 2 pre-req classes for a higher grade to gain more points and studying for that TEAS test. No one understands how competitive nursing is. People still assume that nursing school is easy (since we're "assistants", how hard could it be?) and that finding a nursing job is easy, as well (not really). Jobs aren't looking good either and my director just gave me "real life advice" (as she would say). She said since being an RN is a goal (and that i'm still "young"), to just go for the RN bridge and not work as an LPN. Most LPN jobs here now require the 2 years experience and she said they're more likely to hire RN's than LPNs. Also she said I would get STUCK working with all that responsibility that it's going to be hard going back to school. So that is my focus now and I'm in close talks with the director.

My boyfriend is on a career path that is very lucrative. His family members (mostly his grandma) will say annoying things like, "oh your boyfriend is going to make alot of money and is rich! You're still in school, that's why you need to be done soon so you can be rich together." First off, money is not everything. I'm not undermining my bf's accomplishments and am so proud of him but what does his money and status have anything to do or relate to me? One of the reasons why I like nursing was because I could still be self-sufficient. I know I'm focused on my own career path, it's a different journey for everyone but I really hate when people say something like that. Obviously, his grandma has good intentions but it's annoying... he's the rich one and I'm the poor one who's not worthy... I try not to let it get to me but it's hard. I get insecure about it because I'm ambitious too. I want to be in the RN bridge program, I want to get out there and be a nurse but it's soo frustrating and here is everyone, looking at me with this "rich" boyfriend...it's so silly and petty but these comments are just not fun...

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"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss

Ignore what people say, be your own person and do what you have to so that you​ are happy.

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Specializes in Hospice, Palliative Care.

Good day, Hellostudentnurssee:

Stay your course. While I do believe we need to be gentle and kind towards others, only you, live your life. As shared above, "ignore what people say" and learn to be comfortable in your own skin (that's a life long journey).

You can do it!

Thank you.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

one of my favorite quotes.....

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"........ Eleanor Roosevelt

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