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How can I not be so paranoid that others are talking about my mistakes or abilities?


I'm a new nurse but still feel inadequate (basically I think I focus on my mistakes) rather than any positive feedback I get. Every so often I make a dumb mistake (nothing serious) but I don't want it to erase any confidence that other nurses had in me. Often during change of shift we get patients that crash (which makes the next nurse come on to shift very stressed-understandably so--but being new, it's all new to me so I can only do my best to get everything right).

How can I not go around worrying what the next nurse thinks? Everyone has been nice and helpful, but I don't know how to increase my confidence and lessen my insecurities. Is this typical?

I just want to say, yes, this is typical. Understandably you want to do your best, and know that everyone thinks highly of you. Also understand you are learning and there is no way you will be able to perform at the same level as more experienced nurses. Sometimes we are our own worse critics. Be thankful you have nurses that are kind and are gentle with you, many are not as fortunate. Keep your head up, it will get better.


Specializes in Oncology, Med-Surg, Nursery. Has 8 years experience.

I've learned you can't worry about what other people think. Some people naturally think the worst of others, some naturally think the best. As long as you know that you did you best, that is all that matters. You can't please everyone, so don't waste your time trying. Just do the best that you know you can do, and don't worry about the rest. :)

llg, PhD, RN

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development. Has 44 years experience.

We can't always get rid of the emotions we feel. We just have to have the courage and strength to live with them for a while. For example, if someone we care about dies, we are going to feel pretty bad for a while -- and that would be normal and right.

As a new nurse, you are going to be insecure in your abilities for a while -- and a little anxious -- and concerned about what your new colleagues think about you. That is normal and natural. In fact, it's healthy -- as long as you don't get overwhelmed by those feelings.

You simply need to do what the rest of us have done (perhaps many times) in our careers ... put one foot in front of the other and move forward, one step at a time. Self confidence will come as you successfully more and more situations. It takes time to develop. Most new grads finds it takes about a year.


Specializes in NICU, Nursery.

Hey, cut yourself some slack. We've all been there. Believe me. :)

I guess I can say that it really depends on how fast you adapt on your floor, and after you have, things are going to be easier. Just be alert at all times, ask questions from your seniors and always be willing to learn.

And don't worry about what others think of you. The world would be a much breathable place if we didn't have to worry about that too.

Good Luck and smile. :)

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