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Help, I've got a crush!

This far I have never even had the thought of crossing a boundary with a patient or family member. However, I have grown very fond of a family of a patient that I have been taking care of this past week. The patient's sister gave me her business card, and since I did not see her today I sent her an email thanking her for allowing me, as a student to take care of her brother while in the ICU. I also told her that since I did not have the son's contact information, to please thank him for me. She responded with his phone number and told me that he would be excited to hear from me. What do I do? I have a crush on the son, and have been pondering crossing that boundary. Has anyone ever been put in this situation? If so, what did you do? This afterall is not the patient, but the son of the patient...

Thanks everyone in advance for your input.

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    Do NOT cross the boundary. It's there for a reason.

    Let it go. Let him alone. To pursue him would be a serious violation of your professional role and highly improper. Don't jeopardize your career over a crush. (A crush is not a relationship.)

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    I wouldn't cross the boundary. If you do, it's going to ruin your future.

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    Walk away from this one. Honestly I wouldn't even email the sister anymore.

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    do not cross the boundary under any circumstances

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    you better get over that **** real fast or your career will be short lived.

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    You better hope the hospital and your school does not find out about this because you can get in trouble.

    You should never mix business with pleasure.

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    Walk away from this one. Honestly I wouldn't even email the sister anymore.

    Exactly.

    I think you know you shouldn't do this or you would not have posted about it on a message board.

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    you better get over that **** real fast or your career will be short lived.

    lol, Just the right words.I agree w/ everyone else..Maybe in the next lifetime my love or maybe, in the FUTURE if it's meant to be you'll see him again...OUTSIDE of work!

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    If it's meant to be you'll find each other outside of work

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    Exactly what they said. Don't jeopardize your nursing career over a crush..Isn't worth it..but on the outside..its a go.

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    Personally, I think the boundary line was already crossed just by emailing the lady. The only way I think it would be okay to have anything to do with this guy is if you ran in to him in the future and hit it off, outside of the hospital.

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    One of the coolest things about being a nurse is the families you get to me and spend time with during the course of a loved one's medical problem. The nurse gets a very intimate view of the family that most people will never see. Families are placing a great deal of trust in you and to try to take something for yourself would be taking advantage of the situation. You will have many more special and amazing patients and their families in your future. Try to keep the relationships light and therapeutic.

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