Well to tell you the truth, I'm not a nurse yet, but this is what I think a good nurse should have: When I was having my baby in July, my nurse was the best thing that could have happened for us. She was considerate of how I didn't want any drugs, she respected my feelings and didn't push anything on me. She smiled and was upbeat. Calm and very assured of herself. You could tell that she really enjoyed her job. She LOOKED at me when she was talking to me and she included my family in the whole process, with my permission of course.
Other nurses that I have encountered usuallly smile, look at you, calm, neatly "put-together". And you can usually tell if they are sure of themselves, thats a big one! I think that a nurse should show she is sure of her/him self if they want the patients respect.
I'm not sure this is what you were looking for, but I hope it helps.