What can I do to help a struggling student nurse??

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I work with a girl starting her first semester of an advanced nursing program (16mos). She absolutely has to work FT b/c she is a single mom (with deadbeat dad) with three children. She is having to do careplans almost nightly and leaving work to go to school and then picking her pts at 8pm for the next morning.:no: Anyway, needless to say, she is sooo burnt out. She was sick this week, to boot.. As a fellow NS I can commiserate but I am not in an accelerated program, don't have kids with a deadbeat dad, and don't work FT.

Anyway, I offered her any help with academic stuff and said if she needed a day off to let me know, because my schedule is much more open than hers. Unlike her, I have a supportive husband and am not financially hurting (although it's not growing on trees either). She was appreciative of the offer but did not seem too excited about giving away shifts b/c she needs the $$.

Ok, my question is...how much can I really offer to help her? I thought about watching her kids, but I guess her mom helps her out there. Then I thought about working a shift for her, but letting her get paid for it. Is this crossing the line, I mean, would it be wrong to suggest that?? I don't know if she would accept, but this is the only way I can think to help her other than doing her homework for her????

Any suggestions?:idea:

Specializes in ED.

I would include helping to make her a dinner perhaps one night a week or something, help clean her house, Or just sit with the kids while she studies.

What a good friend she has in you;)

You are a very thoughtful and caring person. I have a few ideas.

When you cook for you and your hubby, could you make extra and bring it in for her, telling her that it's a treat and that you would love to see someone else enjoy it?

Can you do some Christmas baking for the children?

She may be reluctant to allow you to take her kids places, but perhaps you can give her some gift certificates for a local movie theatre or fun place where kids can burn off energy.

Can you do the footwork to see if there is still some time to register for food baskets? Perhaps there is a way to do it anonymously?

Helping someone who is reluctant to accept help is not easy. You will need to present it to her in a way that will help her understand that is is not failing if she receives help. Play on her "this isn't for you, it's for the kids," if she's reluctant. Or, play on the "pay it forward," type of feeling. Reassure her that you know she is not the type to play the system, but that you trust her implicitly to help someone else in need some time down the road.

Good luck. I hope that your coworker makes it through because it truly sounds like she should.

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