how many women have felt like this? - page 2
Most of you who frequent this board know my stroy...I quit a well paying job to go to school(because of health reasons) I chose to go to the ADN program. Now here I am not working, trying to get all... Read More
Apr 28, '01Occupation: RN Specialty: CV-ICU ; Joined: Oct '00; Posts: 2,343; Likes: 51Robin, I think I know what you are talking about when you are worrying about not bringing in money after having to do it all from such a young age. I have strong "caretaker" tendancies after being the stable one in my family, too. I did put my husband through his last year of his BS degree, then through his masters' program, and never took the time to finish my own BSN that he has been encouraging me to do for so long.
Our son was on drugs for about 3 years, and I joined Al-Anon to stay sane during that time. That is where I learned that I don't have to be perfect, I don't have to take care of everyone, and I don't have to beat myself up mentally everytime I don't get everything right. The Al-Anon daily meditation book "Courage to Change" continues to guide me in valuing myself even now, 3 years later.
Life is more than just bringing home a paycheck; your contribution to your family and home will be your working on your education. And life goes on whether or not the house is cleaned or laundry is done or everything is perfect. Stop beating yourself up; nothing is perfect in life.
BTW, my husband is a great cook, and I don't mind one bit when he fixes a meal for us-- it's the clean up after him that's the pits! Let your hubby do for you; you'll do for him some day too!