Good Bye to Nursing for me... - page 14

Well, the start of a new year and I'm kissing nursing good bye after only 5 short months. I graduated in may and started at a hospital in august. My very first preceptor was a nightmare, on my... Read More

  1. by   kiwi nurse
    Sorry to hear you had such a hard time with you preceptors, I can certainly feel for you, as a similar thing has happened to me recently. Having graduated in 2004, and aquiring a position in a 700 bed hospital. My preceptors were a nightmare as well, i'm thinking maybe its their age?.... been in nursing too long? i don't know but i went through a similar thing. Its almost as though they believe you didn't learn a thing in all the years of your training. I'm like the other nurses who have written in.... don't give up just yet.... certainly keep you licence up to date.... I've stuck this job out for a couple of years and certainly i'm looking for another one. I'm hoping i've got more experience now, for when i move to handle to ratbags of the nursing profession. I have to say, i nearly chucked it in myself after a month of total CRAP. Keep your chin up, and don't ever let anyone tell you, that you don't know anything or can't do it because you can. We all can.
  2. by   4daughters
    I just joined today...and I'm amazed at all of the stories I'm reading about burnout and overwork . I too am in a similar situation. I love my job, but can't STAND the administrative nonsense. Everything is about the bottom line, and seeing how much more they can get out of us. Our manager is often "crazed" - I approached her about a situation when I was in charge, and she came right out and said that I disgusted her because I voiced my concerns. They run our hospital like a hotel, we even have room service. Much of the time, we have patients who are never happy with anything you do. Most of the patients on my unit are quite healthy. Often we are busy starting an IV, doing bloodwork, or other stat nursing interventions, and we get a call on our PHONES (and yes, we have nurses written up over taking one home by mistake!), for ice water or to mop their floors. Housekeeping will not empty linen bags, we have no assistants who help us out, per se, and if we do have the luxury of having one on the unit, she always seems to be "unavailable", or should I say, watching TV in the locker room.
    I think what disturbs me most is that we continue to put up with it. I applaud the younger nurses who are coming out of school and realizing that there's more to life than this. When are we going to stop burying our heads in the sand, and stand up for ourselves? We let administration walk all over us, our managers often times abuse us verbally. Our unit is always under the rule of threats - we can't answer call lights over the intercom - we must physically go to the rooms to see what's wrong - most of the time it's been a mistake - the patient rolled on it, or one of her children pushed it; if we make a lab error of ANY sort, it's grounds for dismissal - this is because our manager has made a goal to have none for the year. We all go about our day in fear. But I have a hard time dealing with the morale - NO ONE is happy - but we can't go to anyone about it, because we have to deal with the wrath of the manager when she finds out we've complained. Nursing has been a big disappointment to me, because how I am practicing is not what I signed up to do. If I had wanted to go into the hospitality/hotel industry, I would have gone to university for that, and made a 6 figure income. I'm now at a crossroads, trying to figure out how to get out of hospital nursing and go into business for myself. Any nurses who have gone into business for themselves, please let me know.
  3. by   BoomerRN
    Hey 4 daughters, you can start your own business. When I first moved here from another state, I advertised my services as an RN and the ad was answered by a wonderful family who had a brittle diabetic elderly mother who needed care during the day while they worked. I really enjoyed this job. Now, I am researching starting a health care business of which I hope to start by later this year. I'm at an age where I just can't see myself going back to LTC, etc and, I want to do my own thing my way. There are numerous resources online to check out and decide on what type of business to start. The small business admin. in your community will also help you. Our community college offers "How To Start a Business" and other helpful courses. Go for it. Good Luck.
  4. by   el0489
    I feel your pain, believe me. I have had it very rough, too, in this career - preceptors from hell, unsafe working conditions, disrespectful and unreliable CNAs, etc. And we wonder why there's a shortage? I've been trying different options and at this point, am mostly avoiding facilities. I love home care but can't get enough hours. At this point, I'm looking at work in medical offices. They don't make as much money but it's less stressful. I can supplement this with per diem and weekend hours doing home care.
  5. by   subee
    Quote from gan2ar
    I'm very sad to to learn about such a negative experience. I've been a preceptor my self but nothing like what you described. Those are the kind of nurses that discourage others, students alike, from the nursing profession. They probably forgot the were newly grads once, perhaps the were born with the degree and the experience attached to the placenta. Wish you were my preceptee, i'm sure your experience would have been much more pleasent and quite a learning experience. I will never forget I was a nursing student and a young grad once!.

    When I was on orientation - in 1975 - my hospital had which I believed was an ideal model. We had two med-surg floors that served as orientation floors. Physical conditions that no new grad would believe on God's green earth BUT we were adequately staffed. All the RN's who worked on this floor chose to be preceptors (most were in grad school). No, they didn't receive any more money (although, that's not a bad idea) but they had the desire to work with a new grad despite a lot of physically yucky things about the units; the pay-off was enough staffing to give good care. These were also teaching units for the MD's - all orders written by interns and residents with oversight by the private docs. How self-defeating is it for any institution to provide preceptors who are not equipped (intellectually or emotionally) for teaching? How self-defeating is it that new grads have to tolerate this meat grinder mentality? I don't think that the politics of the nurse-other relationship will ever change until we all have a four-year degree and command as much respect as your kid's piano teacher. This is not the forum to continue the endless debate. I'm not talking "quality" of bedside care here but political reality. The higher-ups will always see us as trade school fodder until we became an item so scarce that they'll have to pay enough and provide enough professional incentives to keep the precious commodity of nurses.
  6. by   oktravelnurse
    I just hate to hear stories like this from new grads. It is so important for your orientation to be a positive experience. I had the best preceptor. She was kind, never made me feel ignorant and I learned a lot. It was only after I finished my orientation that I became burnt out. I decided to change and start traveling. I went to Calif. There they only give you 5 patients and you can usually do a great job with 5 patients. My first night off orientation I had 14 patients alone on a neuro floor. It was insane not to mention dangerous. Please take care of yourself. Take time off and concentrate on your new baby. Don't give up on nursing you will find your place. We need nurses.
  7. by   forest2525
    Dont give up on this profession yet. I am not terribly happy where I am now, and plan to go elsewhere in a few months. But there are too many avenues you can go in this field to not investigate some that you haven't tried yet.
  8. by   Tiwi
    I came on the site tonight looking for those who have had experiences of violence committed towards them in this job. Unfortunately I have been unable to read all posts, and am wondering if anyone has been on the wrong end of physical violence. I'm sure they have, and that it has already been discussed in this forum.

    Where I work physical and verbal violence is not uncommon. I have had good support from the hospital, however I feel that myself and others are in a vulnerable position. The hospital has initiated a programme for staff to report violence which will hopefully reduce the incidence. However its effectiveness is limited by the law which of course also has to consider the nurse's responsibility of "duty of care". Patients cannot be discharged obviously if they are sick, even if staff are threatened verbally or physically. However it becomes tedious for staff to have to fill out at least two, maybe three forms as well as recording in the notes, the occurrance of the incident, if one feels things are not getting done. Nurses are filling out enough paperwork to cover themselves legally, which takes up time, and paperwork that seems superfluous eventually becomes tiresome.

    For me, I am finding it increasingly difficult to deal with even slightly abusive ppl. I find I am almost rooted to the spot and can't think calmly. Yes, I have been to counselling, and while they have been great and helped me get through an extremely rough period, the last person said to me that the health system was under pressure, they can only get so much staff, and I got the impression she thought I needed to adjust to the situation

    OK, yes I need to learn to be more calm. I have improved, and most of the time ppl don't see. But we have mandatory aggression seminars, and for the last two I have had to walk out because I am in tears. It is embarrassing. Senior staff don't seem to understand, though as I have stated previously I have had great support in the past.

    I am not giving up nursing, I am proud of my previous position as an EN, and have worked too hard to gain my RN qualification. I may consider counselling, but feel that if I can't handle seminars how the heck will I handle intentionally talking about it, especially if I'm told the situation cannot be changed?

    I would really like to hear other ppl's experiences...
  9. by   poco424
    Caliotter 3, instead of ending your career so quickly try another avenue. the OR might be a good place for you. i work there and the kind of stress you encountered on your job doesn't seem to exist there. that's not to say there is no stress but don't give up. med surg isn't the only kind of nursing there is..........
  10. by   yako+2
    I would also not encourage you to stop. Just take a break and continue renewing your licence. Nursing is what is keeping me alive please do not give up.
  11. by   sherryshell
    Healer27, it could just be that med-surg or the hospital environment is not for you. I suffered through a year of med-surg, it was the worse experience of my life. Like you, I had no time to eat lunch, no time for bathroom breaks (8 UTI's that year), the stress was unreal, I was sooo sick all the time. Nursing school was a piece of cake in comparision.

    I finally had enough, and went back to private duty part time and took a supervisory position in Medicaid personal care (which is where I'd worked as a CNA at the beginning of my career). Now I'm assistant DON and expect to have my own agency soon.

    I say all that to say this. Take a break from nursing, but don't give up on it. And whatever you do don't let your license expire!!!!!!!

    Take it from me, there is much more to nursing than hospitals.
  12. by   Tiwi
    I really can't afford to take a break, being in my new graduate position; like you said, I don't intend to give up. But thanks for the suggestion
    Last edit by Tiwi on Jan 13, '07
  13. by   dodgerla
    I hate to hear this from someone who has been in nursing for such a short time, especially as someone who is just beginning school and has chosen this as a second career choice. I do understand though, because if you're not happy with what you're doing, you're not happy in many aspects. If I didn't understand that, I wouldn't be going back to school. I do agree with Marian202, though, someone like you who had a tough time in the beginning being the person to train someone like me, would be a huge encouragement in looking for the upside in all of the tough situations that are to come.
    Enjoy you baby, but try to come back to it someday, you'd be a great teacher!