Evaluated as a woman?

[TomCCRN1991]

I was wondering how many of us are , when given our evaluations by our managers, are downgraded because we don't think, act, or behave enough like women. Men think, act, and behave differently than women and some manager's in my 18 years, just dont know how to evaluate men. For example, I try to meet them halfway by being more attuned to my female co-workers nonverbal cues such as when they need help. But no attempt is made, when they are falling behind to ask for help. They assume that I should just "know"when they need help. So a few say "He doesn't help enough." (All they have to do is ask.) Could it be as simple as men are more focued on the task at hand and women are just better at multi-tasking. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts and experiences, and how men and women bring different traits to nursing and co-worker interactions and if anyone has had the same difficulties. (P.S. I've never been seriously downgraded because of my job performance or patient interaction.)

[Speed Freak]

Could it be as simple as men are more focued on the task at hand and women are just better at multi-tasking.

Dude, they are women. They won't be happy with us no matter what we do! :chair:

[TomCCRN1991]

Speed Freak, that sounds so cynical, but I fear you are correct. We are damned if we do and damned if we dont. However, it does effect the size of my annual raise, and that does concern me.

[THAT Nurse., MSN, RN, APRN]

If it affected the size of my annual raise, and I lost money because women did not like the fact I was a guy, I would take advantage of the sex discrimination laws.

I am thankful though, I work in a workplace where my strong back (and sadly, I think little else) is appreciated enough they simply let my being a guy, and therefore different, slide (course, I am nice enough to do the same for them). They even laugh at my crappy jokes too, so I am kind of set.

[TomCCRN1991]

Iwasn't women,but a woman, my manager. My co workers like me very well. We just got a new manager, and the old manager, before leaving, left me a big F-Uon my final eval so bad that I wouldn't get any raise at all. The new manager refused to believe it, since what she has observed of my work and what my coworker have said, has been very good. She asked HR for special permission to reevaluate me in January and base my raise off of that. For that I was very appreciative. I don't know what to make of 8 years of good, not perfect, but good evals, to suddenly getting a very poor eval. The new manager said since she kept my salary so low for these years, I should have a lot of money coming to me. I hope so. I think there was discrimination, but I'm not sure I can prove it. I'll see what happens in January. Thanks for the response.

[LatinDolphin]

Dude, they are women. They won't be happy with us no matter what we do! :chair:

Get ready to have some of them hunt you down! LOL!

[leslie :-D]

wow.

whenever i read threads like this, i am constantly amazed....

amazed that such sexism still exists.

i absolutely do not get it.

gender has nothing to do with nsg performance.

i mean, even in my previous profession where men typically dominated, i never once thought that i was being discriminated against.

if anything, i eval'd those who were successful and tried to learn from them.

i'm not saying sexism doesn't exist...of course it does.

it just makes no damn sense at all.

op, your new mgr sounds like a gem.

or rather, your previous nm sounded like a nightmare.

i do think you'd have a case by showing a steady flow of good evals then having a lousy one with this particular mgr?

obviously something is very off...

and if you ever wanted to pursue it, i do think you'd have a pretty solid case.

leslie

[futrarmyCRNA]

As a male working ICU/CCU, I think it is quite the opposite where I am employed. Most of the females like working with us and say so and the managers have always been fine with us. We have just recently got a male manager also. The ER and ICU seems to both be heavy in male nurses compared to other specialties.