My dilemma: I received an offer for an ICU New Graduate position that is 6 hours driving ONE WAY away from home. This is my ideal position but I also have a family and a 6 month old baby. Should I take this position? Or do SNF/Home Health in hopes of getting into acute care later on? I am also enrolled in a FNP program that is set to start next year.
Community, what do you think is the best thing to do? I want to spend time with my baby and taking the new graduate position so far away would mean that I would not be seeing her and my husband on most days.
the baby is number one here not your career.Those first three formative years are very important."A child has a need for its mother greater than the need for food.Keep looking for jobs close to home.
I'm not sure your comments apply to OP, and here's why --
Firstly, OP is not making a 3 yr. commitment to the new job. It is more likely one year, or if 2 year, "personal circumstances" would allow for a clean break after a year for OP to return home to work as a nurse with that 1 year of experience under her belt. A nurse only has to gain that critical first year of practice once.
Secondly, babies need care, attention, touch, warmth, etc. Those don't have to come from the biological mother, but a husband, grandmother, sister, aunt, and any conceivable combination of mature caregivers etc. can equally provide care, attention, touch, warmth for a year, or even longer if necessary. And thank goodness for that because there are circumstances where mothers and babies are separated (death, illness, divorce, etc.), and those babies have grown up healthy and happy. I just don't think babies need all that to come from only the biological mother.
Thank you for the reassurance! This was helpful. That was my plan - work one year then return closer. I'll be home 2-3 times a week to see my family as well so I'm not completely out of baby's life, which is something I don't want anyway. It is SUPER difficult to find a new grad position in the Bay Area. I went to school out of state so I do not have much connections locally. Also, my grace period for nursing loans is ending next month!
Once again, thank you so much for your reply. I don't feel as bad taking this job now.
I'm not sure your comments apply to OP, and here's why --
Firstly, OP is not making a 3 yr. commitment to the new job. It is more likely one year, or if 2 year, "personal circumstances" would allow for a clean break after a year for OP to return home to work as a nurse with that 1 year of experience under her belt. A nurse only has to gain that critical first year of practice once.
just don't think babies need all that to come from only the biological mother.
I agree 100% percent with this! Its a sacrifice, but one that will ensure a great future for her family, especially her baby. Finding a job is not easy, especially one that will accept you in a great specialty such as the ICU. Sometimes to have to take an opportunity and fun with it, make it work along the way. Good luck and congrats OP, you got this!
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I'm not sure your comments apply to OP, and here's why --
Firstly, OP is not making a 3 yr. commitment to the new job. It is more likely one year, or if 2 year, "personal circumstances" would allow for a clean break after a year for OP to return home to work as a nurse with that 1 year of experience under her belt. A nurse only has to gain that critical first year of practice once.
Secondly, babies need care, attention, touch, warmth, etc. Those don't have to come from the biological mother, but a husband, grandmother, sister, aunt, and any conceivable combination of mature caregivers etc. can equally provide care, attention, touch, warmth for a year, or even longer if necessary. And thank goodness for that because there are circumstances where mothers and babies are separated (death, illness, divorce, etc.), and those babies have grown up healthy and happy. I just don't think babies need all that to come from only the biological mother.