dealing with hostile superiors

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First of all, does anyone know if it is documented anywhere what the acceptable codes of conduct for nurses and surgeons in the OR? I am having a lot of difficulty with my supervisor. She is ex-military and can be dictatorial and autocratic at times, especially when dealing with personnel issues. Recently I had an encounter with a surgeon who was rude and abusive, after which he complained to my supervisor about my "unprofessional" behaviour. I have acknowledged my part in the incident, but what I have found most disturbing is her lack of support for the nurses in the OR when it comes to disputes between them and the surgeons. My relationship with her has deteriorated a lot and I find that I cannot resolve issues with her satisfactorily. Does anyone have any suggestions, one, how to deal with her and, two, how to deal with surgeons?