Confrontational co-workers!!!!!

[mina123]

I don't even know what happened at work yesterday but two of the co workers got really angry at me and started double tagging me in the break room. This is what happen. I work on a very busy med surg floor. We only have one assistant NM who is very good at her job and when she is working she takes cares of calling all the doctors, all critical lab values, any other issues with pt or pt;s families in a very smooth way. Basically when she is there the unit runs perfectly. But she only works three days a week that leaves 4 days out of week when someone else is in charge position. Now any one of the floor nurses is picked up randomly to be charge for that day. When any other charge nurse is there besides my NM i don't feel comfortable working with them. Because it seems like with a load of 8 pt's in morning shift i am also unit secterary, calling all doctors, managing disruptive families, and doing my usual pt care and passng meds responsibility. 8am i already had a rapid response with other craziness. MY DON asked me i looked so frazzeled i then in calm manner with one of other coworker standing next to me said i don't like when our usual assistant nm is not there, when some one else besides her is in charge all hell breaks loose. I did not by any means applied that other people in charge are not doing there jobs well; my only implication for that statement was it's just chaotic and crazy when someone else is in charge. So the charge nurse for that day and the other coworker who said everthing to the charge double tagged me in the break room and started saying F words and things like go to other floor and work. I remained very calmed and polite and explained how i felt. And even after my break on floor i talked to them very politely. But now i feel they are going to spread rumours about me which is not true at all and try to sabotage me. I have not said anything to DON yet. Should i wait and see what happens or tell the DON what took place??????

[zuzi]

First of all i did not publicly criticize anybody's job performance. When we have a charge position that charge should and yes her job describes her to follow with all the MD'S, lab values, call any critical result, put in medication orders and so forth. That's what the charge on our unit does. However some charge nurses completely leave the nurses hanging to do all the stuff and they are sitting around sipping on there coffee. As i mentioned in my post i already had 8am rapid response and intubation on the floor because no ICU beds were available. This charge nurse did not help me at all and i had 7 other pt;s wanting something or other. So yes it was crazy that day, and if i wanted to sneak behind her back and bad mouth her i would not have just casually in my conversation with my don IN FRONT OF A CO-WORKER SAID ANYTHING! meaning if i was ****** at her job performance or what not. It was just a blur of moment i said something and PEOPLE WHO OBVIOUSLY KNOW AND DO NOT HAVE SELF CONFIDENCE OF THERE JOB PERFORMANCE TOOK IT SERIOUSLY THAT IT WAS SAID AGAINST THEM! If any of the nurses goes and complains about my job performance i won't worry about what the DON has to say about it you know WHY? because i have 100% confidence that the DON will tell other nurses to mind there own business. What i am trying to say is these fake charge nurses know they are not able to perform any of the required duties then why do it at all??????????? If you are not able to handle your job let the assistant NM or DON know don't let the other 4 nurses on your floor suffer because you suck at your jobs. And in response of your favor i meant that i am not going to DON with the complain of F words and things like that which was said to me because again my DON is very strict and she might actually suspend them for few days and i don't want that for them on there record. I know i am a bigger person then them and if my heart is clean i really don't care what other person thinks!

Oh Dear Mina, you are so young and "so inocent" if you didn't realized how thinks are working in nursing, looool. Why I belive that you are not an american nurse???? But with big dreams??? LOOL

First my dear you are JUST a nurse, a regular NURSE, and she is your CHARGE nurse, whatever she will do whatever she did, she is and will be in charge. A charge nurse is not JUST a nurse she is the first step on managerial position, all of charge nurses know that, they have and MANAGERIAL duties, that you and me like nurse, neither we know it.... A charge is a link on chain comand, and YOU and me my dear we are just soldiers..is true...you need to know very well your identity and position to not have surprises after. Criticisizing a charge nurse is like you burn your bridges, even if you have right , please, take a managerial nursing book and you will see how thinks works and the reality lived will give you a good feedback also. Mina I don't want to see you burned out, I don't want to see on the corner or chosing to change you job, I don't wnat to see you alone, I was THERE before, because you just want to change the nursing world to be a fair one. IS NOT! AND never will be! Yes you can find AND stupid charge nurses but AND good smart ones, don't be YOU the fire to flame the clay... is worthless, belive ZUzi that was there! Is from up side down, is not just about HER, nothing never will be changed, is about MONEY my dear, take it or let it, is your choice!

Nursing for patients, and nursing to make you to not sleep because your patient decline in condition is for dreamers, life is not for dreamers, my dear, life is for MONEY, live and let it pass, be like them, or go away. You are young to young for this, and to yearly to shout soo loud or to ask for a war, you will loose....... big trues are tell on the ear on smooth voice... with all my heart Zuzi :heartbeat:heartbeat:heartbeat

[BmichelleRN]

I think my biggest concern when reading your post is what kind of nurses are they?? And please don't let them be my caretaker should I end up in your facility!!

I agree with the idea of the neutral statement...but if you were saying that about me and I was the NM, I would approach you and ask you what I could do to help the floor run more smoothly...Why can't people, especially in healthcare, work together, is it not stressful enough?? (having just been stabbed in the back, while they smiled to my face, I'm a little sensitive)

And I know, people are going to say that everyone is different but what happened to serving people instead of being self serving. I have had both experiences and I will say staffing is much better on units that work together...what better motivation to reach out rather than to strike out.

And shame on those nurses who confronted you!!! I personally do not care their motivation, they could have approached you like professionals, like intelligent ?? adults.