Inappropriate Behavior - page 3

In an LTC facility, the residents will often ask for hugs...I don't have a problem giving hugs! My question is an activity aide (female) giving hugs and kisses on the cheeks when the residents don't... Read More

  1. by   student forever
    Quote from interceptinglight
    Truly!! Geez, you're already exposed to every microorganism present in the facility you work in, not to mention the close proximity with people that you are caring for. CNA work is no place for germaphobes !!! :icon_roll
    Just ponder those wheelchair handles. . . when has anyone anywhere ever wiped them down?? And what would be the point?? haha!
  2. by   Biera
    I think this is a great question. I asked the same one of my supervisor b/c my coworker kisses residents over and over, big wet kisses on the face, neck, etc. going bed to bed to bed. It's disgusting and inappropriate imho.
  3. by   rivershark2005
    It surprises me how many of the residents in the facility I am working at say, "(my name), get over here and hug me! I haven't seen you since you were this high (hand about 4' above the ground). How's your mom?"

    Beyond those residents, I pat every single person on the shoulder when I pass them. The number of smiles I get from that minimal amount of contact is amazing. I have also found that a smile goes a long way. It seems that none of the CNAs I work with want to smile at their residents.

    Now, kissing a resident? I would assume that a quick kiss on the cheek is okay, with certain residents. I'm certainly not a point that I would feel comfortable doing this, but I have only been working there for 3 days. Maybe as time goes by...
  4. by   MedChica
    'Infringing on their rights'?

    If the lady at your job feels obliged? That's her.
    It's not like she's fondling the residents and they're not signalling discomfort.

    I don't kiss the residents.
    I hug. Our residents are human and starved for friendly physical contact, some of them. One of my little ladies always wants you to sit with her...and she'll grab your hand and pat it.
    She likes contact. Her family never visits.

    I've no problem giving hugs to some.
    To others? They're horny people, so it's best not to travel down that road.
    For others? A fist bump will suffice.
    I work psych and some of our lovely residents like to finger-pant.

    Kissing? I'm not overly 'familiar' with anyone in life, really. Save my boyfriend.
    Cheek pecking is just not something that I tend to do.
  5. by   interceptinglight
    I've never seen a CNA that I worked with ever kiss a resident that we were caring for -- except for one. There was this cutest little gentleman, a dementia-ridden fellow who tended to give the staff a lot of heck all the time with his defiant combative behavior. One night it took two of us to get him all settled into bed, at which time he fell asleep instantly. I remarked, 'Ahhhh......they look so cute when they're sleeping!' which time my partner gave him a little peck on the head as she tucked him in. I'll never forget that.
    Last edit by interceptinglight on Aug 13, '12 : Reason: wording
  6. by   forbidden2know
    Everybody needs a hug. It changes your metabolism.

  7. by   Glycerine82
    I kiss many patients on the forehead and or cheek and I jug everyone. I asked a crying family member who I found in the hall crying if she'd like a hug. She nodded so I gave her a great big one. I think it's perfectly appropriate when your caring for someone as long as its not given when not wanted.