Can I be the nurse for my "own" kid?


  1. Would you do it??

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Sooo, the kid isn't LEGALLY mine, first and foremost.

I have been a peds home health nurse for a long time. I became very close to the family of a former patient of mine... I know, I know.... first rule, right? But I'm just being honest. I love this kid with all my heart.

Unfortunately, Mom has found herself homeless, and cannot care for the child right now. If I were to bring the child into my home and assume a legal temporary guardianship of him, would I still be able to provide his nursing care? I know other nurses in similar situations that have assumed guardianship of their patients, but I don't know if they provided the nursing care for them. I wasn't sure if it was a legal thing, or if they just chose not to. Please help!!!

Bumex, DNP, NP

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Specializes in Assistant Professor, Nephrology, Internal Medicine. Has 13 years experience.

"I love this kid with all my heart." you answered your own question- you're too close to remain objective.

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llg, PhD, RN

13,469 Posts

Specializes in Nursing Professional Development. Has 46 years experience.

I have worked with nurses (and a physician) who legally adopted a patient. Once they did that, they became the "parent" and vacated their professional relationship with the child -- replacing it with a personal relationship.

There are differences between having a personal relationship with a child, and having and professional relationship. Respect each type of role and don't try to ignore those differences and make the roles murky.

Specializes in Burn, ICU. Has 10 years experience.

For the sake of argument, though, aren't there medically fragile kids in foster care situations? I think their foster parents have to be prepared to provide some level of medical care, but the child is a ward of the state. This might be a legal way to be the child's caregiver, but with all the stipulations of the foster-care system.

I agree with others that it doesn't seem ethical to be both the child's nurse and their decision-maker. I think it requires a high level of emotional compartmentalization that would be hard to achieve (with a kid that you love) and also hard to *prove* you achieved should there be any legal question regarding decisions you made for the child or the care you provided.