Bathroom hygiene -you gotta be kidding me!!

[Flare]

I had a teacher come down to my office today to tell me that little "jimmy" was in the bathroom for far too long and wanted me to check on him. I told her I am not allowed to simply walk into the boys room unless there is a true medical emergency. We decided on talking to him from the door with both of us present. The issue that the student was having was that he had a bowel movement and needed someone to wipe him because he didn't know how. He went on to say that mom always does it at home. I retrieved him some moist wipes from my bathroom and told him to try his best. I then followed up with a call to mom to tell her that he has to be entirely independent in the bathroom and that she should teach him how to wipe his own bottom starting today. The mother then got mad at me for making the child do it himself telling me that he's too little to be expected to do that -are you kidding me? he's almost 6!!! sigh... only 21 years til retirement!

[FireStarterRN, BSN, RN]

My oldest son had trouble adjusting to using the toilet at school up until second grade. He was extremely shy and would hold it in, then have an occassion BM accident. He was my first child so it was very distressing and embarrassing to me, and I didn't know what to do! He had been toilet trained actually before two years old but wasn't used to daycare and was too shy to ask the teacher to use the restroom.

He's 31 now and uses the toilet quite well now.