Okay so my situation is kind of hard to explain. I'm a 17 year old female, I took my GED a few weeks ago and I'm anxiously waiting for my diploma to arrive so I can register at my community college and do all my testing and apply to the LPN program before the May 30th deadline so I'm a little scared because the financial aid deadline is May 15 and then registering for classes ends May 8th. My GED could possibly not arrive until the end of April so I'm really stressed out because I want to get through nursing ASAP and not have to wait another year to even apply! NOW THIS IS MY PLAN if everything works out the way I'm hoping....my GED arrives and I register for my college and take the TEAS and register for 13 credits of the ADN pre reqs for the summer before LPN starts in August...then LPN starts and I'll take 8 credits of A&P II and Microbiology while in the program and this will allow me to apply for the bridging program right after LPN ends in August...so that by the time I graduate the bridging program I'll be an ADN RN...the reason I have it planned this way is because my mom hates it where we live and she's so depressed and has to raise my little brother, and sister, and I and only works of waitressing and she's so depressed that she never goes into work anymore because the economy and we're behind on rent and all this stuff so I am trying to push her to get her CNA and even made her sign up for the required CPR class with me so that she could. I need to get my RN here in this town because it's one of the easiest and fastest public schools I have seen for the Nursing program...not too many pre regs and not too much criteria, and as soon as I get my RN we're going to move out west. As much as I crave independence and my own life I want to help my mom, we fight so much but it's because we're both going through our own personal problems. For the first time in my life I know what I want to do and I am focused on it, it's like I've had an awakening or something.
But I'm worried about trying to get through school with my mom having all these problems and then having to worry about our living and all and how I am going to study through nursing school with my family the way it is...I share a very small room with little my sister and my house is always very loud and I don't have a car and can't drive until I'm 18 because my license was suspended before I got my GED. I'm sure if I try really really hard I'll cope and make it, but then there's the career aspect...I want to get my BSN eventually, and I want to work in the hospital setting...I have no interest in management or even nurse practioning, I just want to work as a bedside nurse in critical care, ER, med surg, or pediatrics. Would my lifestyle and having to pick up and move out west make it harder to excel and gain the skills I need in my career prospects? Would it look bad if I picked up and had to leave where I am now and go out west with my family to get another job? Is it hard to move around in nursing? Is it hard to gain skills in ER or ICU or any floor nursing that way?
I'm very confused because while I want to devote myself to nursing and eventually get my Bachelor's degree, I also have to worry about my family...it would be so easy if I just left and went out on my own after I got my LPN ...but it's my family and my mom and I can't do that so I have to make sacrifices...and I'm so worried that next year by the time I get my LPN finished my mom is going to want to leave while I still have to finish my ADN :/ And I will be keeping her here!
And this is all just if I even get accepted in Fall for LPN and everything works out according to my plans! If not, then it could take even longer!
I'll check that out...it's just I'm worried because she's had this drinking problem for years but it's getting worse and worse. And I cannot tolerate her when she is drunk, I get so annoyed and she doesn't care about anything and I wonder how the heck I am going to study with that. She keeps saying she'll quit drinking but anytime we are at the grocery store she goes torwards the wine and I'm like "mom please don't" and she gets mad and tells me I am being annoying and to get way from her...so I really don't know what to do about that. If I can't make her stop then I have to deal with it :/
It's a lousy situation, trust me...I know from experience. But she has to decide to deal with her drinking....you can't. You attending Al Anon won't do anything to change her behavior....but, it will help you to find your boundaries, and live your life no matter the choices your Mom makes.
It's a lousy situation, trust me...I know from experience. But she has to decide to deal with her drinking....you can't. You attending Al Anon won't do anything to change her behavior....but, it will help you to find your boundaries, and live your life no matter the choices your Mom makes.
I'm going to check it out, anything to help me deal with the situation would ease everything up a little. Thank you.
CuriousMe
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It's a lousy situation, trust me...I know from experience. But she has to decide to deal with her drinking....you can't. You attending Al Anon won't do anything to change her behavior....but, it will help you to find your boundaries, and live your life no matter the choices your Mom makes.