Attachment problems?

[Ames coolvibeman]

Hi all,

During clinicals whenever clients that i know or have worked with are discharged, i feel quite emotional, i'm really happy for them, but at the same time i think 'i'll never see these people again in my life', i feel although i get attached too easily and this will become a problem in my future career and staying in a place of work.

Does anyone else have this problem or am i just overly sensitive and need to grow a thicker skin!?

Thanks!

from a 4th semester student in NZ.

[Extra Pickles]

I don't think it's a thicker skin you need, but you do need to learn to keep a professional distance from your patients. You should not be getting emotionally attached, that is a road to ruin both professionally and personally.

By providing compassionate care to your patients you are doing your job. Extending concern or worry or anything else to them after discharge brings you close to a line of personal interest you do not want to cross.

Sometimes patients will want to "friend" you on Facebook, or get your email address. DO NOT give it, do not do it. Remain friendly and courteous and considerate but they are NOT your friends they are NOT your family.

I think many students struggle with this as do many new nurses. The ones who learn how to distinguish the proper time and place for concern about their patients from the ones who become involved in their patients' lives are the ones who succeed. I've seen students and new nurses who just fall apart when a patient passes away, of course you have feelings and no one expects you to be a robot but you have to be careful. Guard your heart and keep things professional. You can do this :)