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Hey my wonderful, intelligent, HELPFUL fellow students ! I'm new to this forum but, REALLY need some help! I'm a mommy...(smiling) My son is 10 months old now and I'm finishing up undergrad as a single mother who wants to... Read More


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    nursing school is not particularly flexible, but you'll be getting through it before your child is old enough to have constant play dates, sporting events, etc. once you're through school, nursing offers a great deal of flexibility, especially for a single parent. many jobs offer self-scheduling, and you can plan your work around your son's needs. i have colleagues who work straight night shifts -- they put their kids to bed at grandma's house, or at home with a student/babysitter who stays the night. after work, they go home and get the kids off to school, then sleep until it's time for them to come home. spend evenings together and back to work . . . of course it's all easier with a partner. but what isn't?

    it's true that in hospital jobs you'll have to work nights, weekends and holidays, but very few kids mind when santa stops at their house a few days early because mommy has to take care of sick people. and when you have to work december 25, your son can spend the time with a friend or relative. unless you've given birth on a major holiday, you'll always have your son's birthday off to spend with him.

    after you work your shift, you're not obligated to take your work home with you. you're off until your next shift. you're right about that. and that's a real plus. when you're off, you're off. nursing is an interesting, varied career as well. if you start out in orthopedics and get burned out, you can transfer to l & d or icu or oncology or whatever tickles your fancy. and if you meet a man who lives 400 miles away, you and your career will travel. (maybe not right now, but those days will return.)

    despite the many naysayers and negative nellies on allnurses.com, there aren't that many incidences of "lateral violence" or bullying. approach your new colleagues with a humble, positive attitude and you'll get the benefit of their knowledge and experience. and don't let anyone tell you that your reasons for wanting to be a nurse aren't valid. you don't need a calling to be a nurse. (see the article on "advice for those considering nursing as a career.")

    best of luck to you.
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    Thanks so much Ruby Vee! Really appreciate you sharing your view on the matter. I'm very encouraged by your post. I guess the next step would be to focus on doing well on my GRE. I can't take back the grades that I've already gotten. I can only change the future. I'll have to do well on the GRE and hope that it outshines my average pre-req grades. And yeah, I know that SOMEONE's gotta be at the hospital on holidays so, I figured that I wouldn't have all of them off. The next milestone is getting into and through nursing school. If I can do tha, I'll probably be fine. I hope to be able to move to Georgia where I feel has nice south hospitality, nice schools and family environment and more importantly BETTER PAY! I looked at INDEED.COM...and a few other places and overall, Georgia pays more than suburbs in Florida. I'm from a small town called Plantation in South Florida and since it's near Miami, they get decent pay but, I REFUSE to move back down there. I'M MOVIN' ON UP and going forward with my life...OKAY ANOTHER QUESTION! What opportunities are there OUTSIDE of the hospital that have similar or better pay?
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    Nursing is a great career, but I honestly wouldn't refer to it as flexible. Especially if you plan on working in a hospital setting (which I see you do). Even though many jobs allow you to work three 12 hour shifts a week, nurses usually end up working more than that. Things get busy and you will have to stay after to finish up all of your paperwork. Also, don't count on getting 4 days off in a row every week. On some of the days you are not working, you will end up making up for missed sleep. Also, as a new graduate, you will most likely have to work night shifts in the hospital. At the hospital I do my clinicals at, there are 50+ people on the wait list for day shift.

    Also, don't rely on the fact that you usually do really well in school. There are so many people in my class (including me) that went through school not having to study at all and still getting A's, but we quickly realized that was not the case for nursing school. My school sent out an example study plan saying we needed to study at least 12 hours a week for our nursing classes alone.

    During nursing school, you have to bring your work home. Before clincials, I have to prepare about 6 hours worth of paperwork to be able to participate.

    Ultimately, I don't think you should go to nursing school for the flexibility. You should be a compassionate person who desires to take care of people.

    If you think this sounds like you...then good luck I know people who have families, work and go to nursing school, and they are doing just fine.


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