Sister's Cancer; Please Answer!

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My sister is losing her fight with ovarian cancer. She was just released from a well known cancer center in upstate NY, and is coming back home, probably to die. She has failed chemo Rx's, most recently Taxol. Her latest crisis was hydronephrosis, due to both ureters blocked. Nephrostomy caths were placed bilat. to drain urine externally. I am a rehab nurse, so am not familiar with this. The doctors seem dead set against any more surgery, but I have not received a satisfactory explanation for this. She may have one option, and that is to have radiation to shrink the tumor enough, at which point, they might be able to do surgery to place ureteral stents(sp?). I don't understand why they can't go in again and remove what tumor they can surgically, and place the stents at the same time. Can anyone enlighten me re this, and also on the care of these nephrostomy tubes? Also, I am in tears writing this because I want to do SOMETHING to help organize the march, because I believe in it so much, and I feel like I'm letting everyone down who is working so hard. Can one of you great organizers come up with one thing that I could do that would be MY contribution and that would also be very helpful? Of course, I am still telling everyone that will listen about the march, and after the night I just spent at work(backbreaking), I just want to participate even more, but I am also overwhelmed with what's happening with my sister. Thanks so much, everybody.

I think your sister was very lucky to have such loving family members see her through right to the end of her life. My thoughts are with you and your family PPL.

I read these postings with tears in my eyes. I myself have been recently diagnosed with breast cancer. I am 39 years old. I have an excellent prognosis--mastectomy, no lymph node involvement, chemo.... and less than a 3% risk of recurrence.

However, after just three chemo treatments with adriamycin, cytoxan, I can tell you that I understand your sisters' decisions NOT to continue with treatment. I have never felt as much intense discomfort at the 72 hours following those treatments. Then you never feel good.

I have two children (16 and 10). If it wasn't for them, I would opt for no treatment and take my 20% recurrence risk. I have a strong, strong believe in an eternity without pain, discomfort, hurt. Why would I choose to postpone it? Well, my only reason is my daughters. But I can see that if this drug on for years, I would lose that "selflessness".

Both of you are in my prayers.

Betty

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