Why Do People Bully Me? - Page 7

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  1. Mar 2 by
    mfill4545, don't give up on your dream of being a nurse, we need you! You worked to hard to get through the nursing program to let someone's behavior ruin it for you. I hope the counseling helps, because we need more good nurses in the world. Best of luck to you.
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  2. Mar 5 by
    Today, in clinical rotation as a student nurse, we were approached while reviewing a chart and warned directly by the nurse who identified herself as, "being here the longest, I do a little of everything around here", that the first thing we need to watch for is that nurses "eat their young".
    When she walked away, I told my colleague that the first thing we need to watch out for is the first nurse who, in spite of her purported experience felt the most important thing we could glean from her experience is that nurses "eat their young". Take it as a warning direct from the source!
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  3. Mar 5 by
    To [COLOR=#003366]mfill4545[/COLOR]

    You went true PTSD the Preceptor made you relive past trauma from Coach. Either the bullying, harassment programs at your facility are inadequate or not being applied. But to see a teacher/Preceptor acting in such a manner is inexcuseable.

    I looked up def of Preceptor An expert or specialist, who gives practical experience and training to a student, especially of medicine or nursing. I didn't see harrassment nor condecending, nor belittleing behavior as part of that description!

    For my own style I am extremly confrontational when nessesary but not in work enviornment. But only after I have exhasted being assertive and I have a long fuse but after a point better off stayuing out of my way. But it takes a long time to get me there!
  4. Mar 6 by
    Quote from mfill4545
    I had a horrible experience this summer. I am a new graduate nurse, and I got my first nursing job in the ER. I went in to the residency program. My nurse preceptor was so horrible to me - I think she could tell that I was nervous. She would call me retarded. I have since quit my job there - and, I now do not have the confidence to be a nurse. What I really needed to succeed was a good mentor, but unfortunately now, I don't know if I can ever go back to the profession. I had a high school coach who was both verbally and physically abusive, so when she began acting in a similar way, I totally cowered down. I am going through counseling now because of it. Some may say that I don't have a backbone - and that may be true...but, there is no reason that anyone should be harassing you in the workplace.
    This is horrible!!! I am so sorry you were treated this way. I hope that you can get past this and back into nursing! If you made it through nursing school then you CAN do this. Wow, I can honestly say that I'm embarrassed on this rotten nurses behalf!
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  5. Mar 6 by
    In regards to mfill4545 Abuse situation.
    SomEthing I believe that will benefit you would be either an EAP program or any group therapy that deals with Nurses. People who have undergone similar abuses at the hands of dysfunctional Nurses. It would provide you with a frame work to see how others have dealt with similar situations and also to see that it is a survivable even and you can work thru it and continue in a high paying field NURSING!!!
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