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- Mar 2 by trai1971mfill4545, don't give up on your dream of being a nurse, we need you! You worked to hard to get through the nursing program to let someone's behavior ruin it for you. I hope the counseling helps, because we need more good nurses in the world. Best of luck to you.
- Mar 5 by doomsayerToday, in clinical rotation as a student nurse, we were approached while reviewing a chart and warned directly by the nurse who identified herself as, "being here the longest, I do a little of everything around here", that the first thing we need to watch for is that nurses "eat their young".
When she walked away, I told my colleague that the first thing we need to watch out for is the first nurse who, in spite of her purported experience felt the most important thing we could glean from her experience is that nurses "eat their young". Take it as a warning direct from the source!
- Mar 5 by Jerry 75To [COLOR=#003366]mfill4545[/COLOR]
You went true PTSD the Preceptor made you relive past trauma from Coach. Either the bullying, harassment programs at your facility are inadequate or not being applied. But to see a teacher/Preceptor acting in such a manner is inexcuseable.
I looked up def of Preceptor An expert or specialist, who gives practical experience and training to a student, especially of medicine or nursing. I didn't see harrassment nor condecending, nor belittleing behavior as part of that description!
For my own style I am extremly confrontational when nessesary but not in work enviornment. But only after I have exhasted being assertive and I have a long fuse but after a point better off stayuing out of my way. But it takes a long time to get me there!
- Mar 6 by twopurpleskittlesQuote from mfill4545This is horrible!!! I am so sorry you were treated this way. I hope that you can get past this and back into nursing! If you made it through nursing school then you CAN do this. Wow, I can honestly say that I'm embarrassed on this rotten nurses behalf!I had a horrible experience this summer. I am a new graduate nurse, and I got my first nursing job in the ER. I went in to the residency program. My nurse preceptor was so horrible to me - I think she could tell that I was nervous. She would call me retarded. I have since quit my job there - and, I now do not have the confidence to be a nurse. What I really needed to succeed was a good mentor, but unfortunately now, I don't know if I can ever go back to the profession. I had a high school coach who was both verbally and physically abusive, so when she began acting in a similar way, I totally cowered down. I am going through counseling now because of it. Some may say that I don't have a backbone - and that may be true...but, there is no reason that anyone should be harassing you in the workplace.
- Mar 6 by Jerry 75In regards to mfill4545 Abuse situation.
SomEthing I believe that will benefit you would be either an EAP program or any group therapy that deals with Nurses. People who have undergone similar abuses at the hands of dysfunctional Nurses. It would provide you with a frame work to see how others have dealt with similar situations and also to see that it is a survivable even and you can work thru it and continue in a high paying field NURSING!!!
- Aug 22 by jadavioThe person I see bulling is a superior, any ideas on how to deal with that one?? No human resource dept.
- Aug 22 by TheCommuterQuote from jadavioThis is a tough situation.The person I see bulling is a superior, any ideas on how to deal with that one?? No human resource dept.
You can either play the game by stroking the supervisor's ego, or you can find another place of employment. If you and your coworkers come together in cohesive unison, you all can take your concerns to management since strength comes in numbers.
- Aug 26 by dolcebellalunadirectly confront the offender. Many bullies are cowards who will move on if given a piece of their own medicine. If they yell at you, yell back at them. If they become aggressive, throw some aggression back into their face. However, this strategy works only when the bully has just met you and begins to test your limits on how much abuse you‘ll tolerate, so let them know you won‘t put up with it. Remember that your first few interactions with a bully determine how he’ll treat you in the future. Confrontation often fails when the bully has been messing with you for months or years because the stage has already been set.