How to deal with +++needy and loud pts

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Honestly, it's ridiculous. I like to think of myself as someone who has a lot of patience but there are a few patients on our floor right now who ring a lot (or if they can't ring for whatever reason, they scream) and for absolutely no reason. Today, I had two of them and found myself nearly at my wits' end!

One patient is clearly anxious about being alone, but she has to be due to being in isolation. She just doesn't feel safe unless there's a nurse (or better yet, two!) in the room with her, so she calls constantly. However, due to physical limitations, she often can't press the bell so she resorts to screaming.

This happens constantly (no exaggeration); I will literally have just taken off my gown and begun washing my hands upon exiting the room and she'll be calling out my name again. When we answer her, 99% of the time she doesn't need anything (she has actually told us this a few times or you can visibly see her think of things to say to keep us there); she just wants us to stay in the room with her. Her family tries to help by visiting every day and staying with her a few hours but she'll still ring or call out for a nurse, despite her family members' attempts to tell her to stop. A nursing student asked her one day why she called so much. Her answer was, "It's just a habit." ARGH.

Second patient is a confused elderly man. He is always calling out names (whichever ones he can remember) or "Help me!", even though he doesn't actually need help. He, too, I think just wants someone to stay with him - he does much better when he has family visiting or if I am with him to provide care. Because he doesn't require isolation, he always has at least one roommate who (understandably so) gets very frustrated and annoyed after a few days with him. His roommate today is one of the sweetest patients I've ever had, and by the end of the day was actually angry with him.

Obviously, I can't stay with these patients all the time. It's impossible. I know there have been requests for volunteers to come and stay with these patients to keep them company, but so far have not seen anything. I do my best to reassure them but it doesn't work. Only my (or whoever is their nurse that day) physical presence seems to comfort them. No one knows exactly how to deal with these patients, so they end up screaming all day and bothering all the patients and families around them. They have meds like Ativan ordered prn but it tends to sedate them and then the families get upset if that happens.

Any suggestions?

Specializes in ICF-MR.
personally, i would get your manager involved in these cases....they could be a litigation issue....

your manager needs to step up to the plate....

ask her for suggestions....

and on a side note, when i have a patients like this, i ask before leaving their room/bedside :" is there anything else i can do for you before i leave?"....

some times i am honest with the patients " i do have other patients. and i wish i could stay here with you. but i cannot.i have tried to find some one to come and be here with you, but i have not been able to. can you talk on the phone? can i call some one to talk to you? is here a tv program that might take your mind off of things that are scaring you? WE need to find a solution to this. i am open for your suggestions and ideas"...

there are other times that i SIT ON THE PATIENTS BED while talking to them. i hold their hand, i touch them, hold their hands.... PERSONAL TOUCH-- FOLKS SEEM STARVED FOR IT..and it allays fears like nothing else.... dont be afraid to touch your patients...

and lastly, if my patient seems to have faith, i ask them if i might give them a blessing before i leave til i come back--then i place my hand on their head or tracea cross on their forehead and ask the good lord to come and bless them and comfort them and stay with them, give them peace until i return.

in another question elsehwere here on this board, another expereinced nurse told her needy patients " here is a piece of paper.i want you to list everything you need and write me a list. and we shall do everything on that list"

I think this advice is great. That's exactly what I see myself doing, but I also understand sometimes you may have no patience left and/or the patient is just never going to be satisfied with what you do for them....

This is a great question and one I have asked many nurses, many times and have done some best practice research on.

I have had patients like the OP is describing and it is exhausting. If they are A&Ox3, you can try sitting down with them and asking what is going on, in a nice way and make a plan. You can give the patient a paper and pen and have them write down what they need to be done and check on them every 30 minutes. Complete the list. If they call you with something other than non-medical, tell them to add it to the list and you will see them at xxx time, turn and walk away.

If they are confused and/or elderly....this is tricky and will depend on the situation. I try to reorient and turn down stimuli, I try distraction then I try to join them in their world. For instance, I once had a dementia patient try to get out of bed because "he was going home". I stood there for a couple of minutes while he cussed at me and once he calmed down a little, he said he hated this f****** hotel. I told him that I worked very hard getting him a nice comfortable bed and please, won't he stay at my hotel for a while. He said, "Well, since you worked so hard to make me comfortable, I guess I will stay". He laid down and slept the rest of the night.

The key with dementia patients is not to get upset yourself. They feed more off emotion than they do anything. Put yourself in a calm place, don't argue and speak softly and slowly. Please remember to turn off distracting noises (beeping IV pumps, televisions, music). Turn the lights low. Maintain a comfortable temperature. Try and make them as comfortable as possible (a warm blanket works wonders).

Last resort, I will try medication. I don't like to give the elderly Ativan. I think it pushes them over the edge of sedation and actually makes confusion worse. I am all for Haldol in these cases. It has a slower onset of working but you can still arouse the patient if you need to. As for the family, I would explain to them that when their loved one is in distress, it's not only hard for their loved one mentally but physically. It does create more stress on the immune system and patients cannot heal. We are doing this for their loved one. Which is true, right? I would never give people sleeping medication for my own peace of mind.

Hopefully this helps. It does take a little more time but better than returning to the room every 5 minutes. Take care of yourself, too! Take frequent breaks! Send someone else in every once in a while! Good luck to you!

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