Charge Nurse Ignores Me - page 3

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How can I get a nurse to not ignore me. I will say her name and tell her something but she does not acknowledge that I am speaking. I only talk to her about valid work issues, this is not socialization. Thanks!... Read More


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    I don't think she should have to butter her up to get her to do her job. She is a charge nurse and staff will ask you questions and use you as a resource. The charge nurse needs to learn people and listening skills or step down.

    If she dislikes the OP then it is her job as part of management to leave those feelings aside.
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    How about you talk to her about it. Catch her when she's available and tell her you want to talk in private. There, explain that you feel that you have a hard time getting her attention and ask her if there is a better way to approach her. This is professional, puts her on notice and solves the problem.
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    Quote from doeRAYmee
    I don't think she should have to butter her up to get her to do her job. She is a charge nurse and staff will ask you questions and use you as a resource. The charge nurse needs to learn people and listening skills or step down.

    If she dislikes the OP then it is her job as part of management to leave those feelings aside.
    Haha of course she SHOULDN'T have to but when has that ever been the way of bedside nursing politics? OP: I used to have a nurse do that to me, ignore report, not look, annoying? Yes. So I just gave my report when I knew she could hear and I made myself very visible. Then left and charted reported off to so and so. I also made it a point to HELP her with her patients, complimant her on whatever. Eventually it worked. We are very cordial now and I enjoy her company. All work situations have a culture, you can go the strict hard line of "she has to listen, go to the boss, she should step down" but that makes you the bad guy against the charge. Or you can go in sneaky and soft and it usually works out.
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    Quote from deann52

    Haha of course she SHOULDN'T have to but when has that ever been the way of bedside nursing politics? OP: I used to have a nurse do that to me, ignore report, not look, annoying? Yes. So I just gave my report when I knew she could hear and I made myself very visible. Then left and charted reported off to so and so. I also made it a point to HELP her with her patients, complimant her on whatever. Eventually it worked. We are very cordial now and I enjoy her company. All work situations have a culture, you can go the strict hard line of "she has to listen, go to the boss, she should step down" but that makes you the bad guy against the charge. Or you can go in sneaky and soft and it usually works out.
    We all have different approaches and I don't go in trying to be buddy buddy with someone. I'm not there to make friends. I'm there to do my job and it's obvious this charge nurse isn't doing hers and sounds unprofessional. I'm not going to pretend to like someone when I don't. I will have work related conversations with them and keep everything professional.

    I have had this happen to me when I was ignored and my method works too.
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    I doubt you get her attention before you start talking about a patient. She may not hear you while talking to someone else. What they are talking about doesn't matter. They are in a conversation anyway.

    Do you call her name and start talking after she replies to you?
    Does she turn and look at you after you call her name?
    If you answer yes, but if they still ignore you, then there is a communication issue that has to be addressed. It would be ignoring.
    But if you answer no, then you can't blame anybody. She can say she didn't even hear you, and she won't be at fault.

    I always wait until they turn to me, or reply "yes?" before I go ahead with an issue. Until I know they have my attention, I can talk all I want but can't blame them if they didn't even notice me.
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    Everyone else around us will hear me talking to her, other nurses will watch and look but she still ignores me.

    (My friend wanted me to clarify - I am actually posting for her - she is a tech/secretary on this unit, not that I think it should make a difference on how someone treats you but maybe it does)

    I may just address it to her like previously said but I tried befriending her and she will just walk away from a conversation or sometimes she does act friendly.

    Not trying to start a war (so please dont take offence) but she is asian, would this be a cultural thing?


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