cliques in nursing school

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I have just completed my first semester in an LVN program and my second rotation unfortunately didn't go as well as the first. I felt like a total outcast in a small group of 5, including me. For example, all 4 of them would stick together and help each other with turning and bathing, but when I needed help, none of them wanted to help me and they would treat me as though I am invisible, as if I weren't even there.I discussed this with the teacher but she wasn't concerned the least and she wasn't a good teacher to begin with,she definitely had her favorites and I wasn't one of them. I'm not sure what the reason was for me being singled out. Maybe it was because of all of them are Asian, and I am not. I am a nice person and was more than willing to help out my fellow classmates, but when I needed them they were no where to be found. I felt as though I were an alien. Nobody deserves to be treated this way, especially when they haven't done anything wrong. Anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks for reading.

having the same problem in my program.

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remember this...

team work / team players are RARE. i worked in corporate America and experienced the same in nursing school. the best advice i got FROM THIS FORUM... fudge everybody else and worry about yourself.

for the record... i am Asian, my girlfriend is Caucasian, and sister is married to a Colombian dude. i have Asian/non Asian (close) friends. they're probably not cultured. you wouldn't want to hang out with people like that anyway. =)

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Specializes in hopeful ER/Surg.

How can any of you find time to worry about who is cliqued up or not?

I feel like I just exist from exam to exam, task to task. I don't have time for my own friends....let alone someone else's.

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Thanks for posting this.. my program has the same issues.. but it is a group with all ages in it. It just amazes me how people act. I try not to let it bother me, but sometimes when stress hits you... everything bothers you even things you have no clue why it does.

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I'm in a different co hort then I started. This cohort is super friendly compared to my old one. If I have a day I get sick the notes are forwarded to me. I do not have to hesitate and ask for help. There have been a few I roll my eyes at but I ignore them. In this cohort I have gotten higher grades. Being sick all the time sucks with people who don't want to help you out.

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team work / team players are RARE. i worked in corporate America and experienced the same in nursing school. the best advice i got FROM THIS FORUM... fudge everybody else and worry about yourself.

for the record... i am Asian, my girlfriend is Caucasian, and sister is married to a Colombian dude. i have Asian/non Asian (close) friends. they're probably not cultured. you wouldn't want to hang out with people like that anyway. =)

HAHA AMEN TO THIS!! :D. I'm Asian and believe me, if my parents find out that I don't treat EVERYONE with RESPECT, and make excuses in not helping someone and leave them struggling to fend for themselves when in reality we all should be helping each other, whether they are white brown, Asian, 90 years old, ugly, fat, an alien, even a dog, they'll take out those funky bamboo sticks and beat me black and blue until I learn to treat everyone equally. (Not that I do this anyway, I def treat everyone with affection and compassion, just like what a REAL NURSE would do, and will help anyone who needs it regardless of age, looks..etc..it's who I am, and it feels good to help out). I thank god everyday I'm bicultural, at least I am somewhat molded to take the good of both Asian and American cultures. I'll do the same if I ever have kids-they better not form their own cliques and treat everyone else like trash, and especially better not have that snotty attitude like many people have. Respect is so gone in this country. People are just freely walking all over people like garbage, kids treating eldery like ****, and think it's ok to shoot up places..crazy. I don't understand why there are so many people who should not be nurses in the first place, get through and become nurses. I went to my friend's nursing graduation in December, and the person who was chosen to speak for that nursing cohort is like one of the most immature people you'd meet. He drinks and gets drunk every night and heard was unprofessional at times. Now it's ok to drink, trash yourself and have fun when you are not in class days (I do it too), but when you're on the field, be responsible and mature! But this guy, how the hell did he get chosen to speak like he was a HARD WORKER, when in reality he was NOT? Like another pp mentioned, about how these 30 year old women who are students make snarky remarks about other people, making cruel comments about people with certain diseases, conditions, and torture that poor 60 year old man because he's old..why would you do that? That's HORRIBLE!!!! We had a older guy about the same age last semester, and I feel thankful I got to assist him as again, no one else seemed to not want to help him. And I felt bad because he seemed pushed away whenever he asked one of the other guys to help him. So I became partners with him to help him I admit though that it was a bit awkward because I am only 24 and he was 60. And I'm a girl, he's a guy..so it did feel uncomfortable and odd.. but I helped him and offered to assist him whenever I can. He didn't survive the first semester and is retaking it, but I still try to see how he's doing and reassure him if he needs help, I'll help him. Anyway Is this how these people are going to treat their patients when they go out on their jobs? Make cruel jokes/comments to them? Lord bejesus!!!! This world is crazy!

But what I do admit, we do need those nice hot belts to whip those bums whenever it's really needed. If it was like it was in the olden ages, perhaps the concept of 'clique' won't exist. People WILL learn and be better people that way. Just ask anyone who was spanked/beaten for being mad rotten and snobby like you see many people today. This includes me lol. You can see how well behaved they are, especially in a field like this where seriousness needs to be taken in all counts.

That said, I'm also kind of an introvert, but we don't have it as bad in my cohort. There are cliques, not part of any of those cliques, but I get along with everyone for the most part and talk with them and we are all friendly in that way. All my close friends who are far away are a mix of white/Asian/black..etc. Yea I'm multicultural, and I speak Spanish too :p lol.

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