Health Care Proxies

Hi. What do you all do about health care proxies? I have had a terrible time with demented residents who were admitted long before I was hired who have no health care proxy and no one to make decisions for them. I'm saying no one will be admitted with out a health care proxy and my admissions person is arguing with me. He's not the one explaining to the family that since they are not the HCP they can't make decisions for their demented family member. I have one woman clearly at the end of life who has been a full code for years. She cannot speak for herself and there is no health care proxy. She is going to have to be sent out again and again because her condition is deteriorating and there is no legal way to make her a no code comfort care. We are getting a guardianship instated but even the 'expedited' one takes days and days. Sorry for the rant but I am very frustrated.